Areté

1. Know the Ultimate Game: Live with Areté

Areté... something closer to ‘expressing the best version of yourself moment to moment to moment.’

Play the right game. The ultimate game of life, according to ancient wisdom and modern science, is to flourish (eudaimonia) by living with virtue (Areté). This means consistently showing up as the best version of yourself, closing the gap between who you are capable of being and who you are actually being. This pursuit brings a deep sense of joy.

Close the gap. The space between your potential self and your actual self is where suffering resides. By choosing actions aligned with your highest potential, you close this gap. This isn't about perfection, but about striving for excellence in each moment.

High-five your soul. Living with Areté is like high-fiving your inner daimon, that guiding spirit within you. This inner excellence is the source of true, eudaimonic happiness, which is distinct from fleeting hedonic pleasure.

2. Embrace Obstacles: Forge Antifragile Confidence

OBSTACLES MAKE ME STRONGER.

Challenges are necessary. Rule #1 of a heroic life is that it's supposed to be challenging. Obstacles are not signs that something is wrong; they are opportunities for growth. Just as a strong wind fuels a fire but extinguishes a candle, challenges can make you stronger if you approach them correctly.

Become antifragile. Don't just be resilient (bouncing back); become antifragile (getting stronger from stress). View challenges as weights in your soul gym. Embrace them with mantras like "Bring it on!" or "I'm excited!" to shift from a threat response to a challenge response.

Earn intense trust. Confidence means "with intense trust." This trust is earned by doing what you say you will do, especially when it's hard. Antifragile confidence comes from knowing you can handle whatever life throws at you and use it to grow.

3. Optimize Your Big 3: Energy, Work, Love

If your ENERGY is sub-optimal because of poor lifestyle choices, you’re going to have a really hard time showing up powerfully in either your Work or your Love.

Simplify self-development. A good life boils down to optimizing three core areas: Energy, Work, and Love. Energy is the foundation; without it, you can't give your best to your work or your relationships.

Energy first. Science shows that Zest (Energy) is the #1 predictor of psychological well-being. Prioritize getting your energy to heroic levels through lifestyle choices. This fuels your capacity for both productive work and deep connection.

Work and Love. With optimized energy, focus on doing Genius Work (high quality, purposeful) and cultivating deep Love (for self, family, others, work, and life). These three pillars provide a simple framework for consistent self-improvement.

4. Make Today a Masterpiece

TODAY’S THE DAY!!!

Seize the moment. To make your life a masterpiece, you must make today a masterpiece. This requires recognizing that the power to live your best life exists only in the present moment. Don't wait for someday; act now.

Dial in bookends. Your day starts the night before. Optimize your PM Bookend (evening routine) to ensure a good night's sleep and wake up energized. Then, start your day strong with a powerful AM Bookend (morning routine) that sets the tone for excellence.

Use checklists. Simple checklists for your key daily behaviors can dramatically improve consistency and reduce errors, just as they do in complex fields like surgery. Identify the few things that make your day great and ensure you do them.

5. Master Yourself: Discipline & Habits

Willpower outpredicts IQ for academic performance by a FACTOR OF TWO?

Discipline is key. Self-mastery, or willpower, is a stronger predictor of success than IQ. It is the ability to do what needs to be done whether you feel like it or not. This skill is teachable and trainable.

Three forms of discipline:

• Reactive: Choosing an optimal response to triggers.
• Structural: Consistently practicing daily habits.
• Expansive: Choosing growth over safety in each moment.

Build identity-based habits. Focus on becoming the type of person who embodies desired habits. Your identity is your "repeated beingness." Use willpower wisely to install habits that run on autopilot, like creating "Odysseus Contracts" to precommit to positive actions.

6. Dominate the Fundamentals

Greatness is all about consistency on the fundamentals.

Build a strong foundation. Just as a skyscraper needs a deep foundation, a great life requires mastering the basics. These are the "socks" that Coach Wooden taught his players to put on correctly.

Universal fundamentals:

• Eating: Real food, time-restricted.
• Moving: Consistently throughout the day.
• Sleeping: 7-8+ hours nightly.
• Breathing: Nose, belly, long exhale.
• Focusing: Deep work, eliminate distractions.

Consistency over intensity. Focus on doing the fundamentals consistently, even if imperfectly. It's okay to suck; it's not okay to skip. Small, consistent efforts compound into significant gains over time.

7. Activate Your Superpower: Soul Force

Soul Force = (Energy x Focus x WIN)^Consistency

Every hero's superpower. Soul Force is that ineffable power in individuals living with fierce integrity to their highest ideals. Gandhi named it satyagraha ("truth force" or "love force"). It's the force that changes the world.

The equation for activation:

• Energy: Get your vitality to heroic levels.
• Focus: Direct that energy on What's Important Now (WIN).
• Consistency: This is the exponentializer.

Consistency is infinite power. Consistently focusing your energy on WIN activates your infinite potential. Without consistency, even high energy and focus yield minimal results. With it, your power becomes limitless.

8. Cultivate Core Virtues

Ancient Wisdom and Modern Science agree: The ultimate meaning of life is to flourish by putting our virtues in action.

Virtues are the path. Flourishing is achieved by living with virtue. Ancient philosophers identified four cardinal virtues (Wisdom, Temperance/Discipline, Courage, Justice/Love). Modern science identifies others strongly correlated with happiness (Gratitude, Hope, Zest, Curiosity, Love).

Heroic virtues: Wisdom, Discipline, Love, Courage, Gratitude, Hope, Curiosity, Zest. Cultivating these allows you to express your best self.

The virtuous mean. Strive for the "golden mean" of each virtue, avoiding the vices of deficiency and excess. This requires wisdom and self-awareness to find the right balance for you.

9. Embrace a Growth Mindset

When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to quit. That is exactly what the majority of men do.

Mindset matters. Choose a growth mindset over a fixed mindset. Believe that your abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work. This perspective allows you to embrace challenges and learn from setbacks.

Failure is data. See mistakes as "mis-takes" or learning opportunities, not personal flaws. Don't waste a setback; use it as fuel to get better. Remember that progress often comes right after moments of difficulty.

Champions finish strong. It's easy to start strong, but only champions finish strong. When faced with challenges or feeling down, work harder, like Michael Jordan after being cut from his team. This builds resilience and grit.

10. Prioritize Relationships & Connection

Children spell love… T.I.M.E.

Love is essential. Healthy relationships are a core component of a flourishing life. Prioritize connecting with yourself (Love 0.0), family (Love 1.0), others (Love 2.0), work (Love 8.0), and life itself (Love ∞.0).

Presence is key. Give the gift of your full presence, especially to loved ones. Put away distractions like smartphones, which diminish the quality of interactions ("The iPhone Effect").

Encourage others. Heroic love (Love 3.0) is about encouraging others ("injecting someone with courage"). Be a source of "comcourage" (having heart together) for those around you, supporting them in facing their challenges.

11. Manage Your Energy Wisely

Routinely sleeping less than six or seven hours a night demolishes your immune system, more than doubling your risk of cancer.

Sleep is non-negotiable. Most adults don't get enough sleep, significantly harming health and well-being. Aim for 7-8+ hours nightly. Prioritize sleep like a "miracle drug" with profound benefits.

Honor natural rhythms. Align your eating, moving, and sleeping with circadian rhythms. Use a "Digital Sunset" to turn off electronics before bed and restrict your eating window to 8-12 hours.

Move throughout the day. Don't be "active and sedentary." Look for "Opportunities to Move" (OTMs) beyond structured exercise. Remember that your body was designed for constant movement.

12. Focus Your Attention

The mind thinks involuntarily just like the heart beats involuntarily.

Focus is a superpower. In a distracted world, the ability to focus deeply is increasingly rare and valuable. Eliminate distractions and dedicate blocks of time to important tasks (Deep Work).

Avoid task switching. Multitasking is a myth; it's task switching, which is inefficient and diminishes performance. Focus on one thing at a time to maximize effectiveness.

Train your attention. Learn to stop unproductive thinking (rumination). Use techniques like mindful breathing ("name it to tame it") to gently bring your attention back to the present moment or your chosen task.

Last updated: May 27, 2025