Body Language Training

1. Confidence is the foundation of high-status body language

"If confidence were man, I betcha he'd be one of the most misunderstood ones like, say, Caitlyn Jenner!"

Confidence misconceptions: Many people misunderstand confidence, equating it with arrogance or insensitivity. True confidence stems from self-assurance and doesn't require putting others down. It's about being comfortable in your own skin and projecting that comfort outward.

Building genuine confidence: Start by challenging negative self-talk and replacing it with positive affirmations. Focus on your strengths and accomplishments, no matter how small. Gradually push yourself out of your comfort zone to build resilience and self-trust. Remember, confidence is a skill that can be developed over time through consistent practice and self-reflection.

2. Reprogram your mind for badass confidence

"Your mind is a garden. Your thoughts are the seeds. You can grow flowers or you can grow weeds."

Mindset shift: To develop lasting confidence, you need to reprogram your subconscious mind. This involves identifying and challenging limiting beliefs about yourself and replacing them with empowering ones.

Techniques for reprogramming:

• Use positive affirmations daily
• Visualize yourself as confident and successful
• Practice gratitude to focus on the positives in your life
• Surround yourself with confident, supportive people
• Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small

Remember, changing your mindset is a process that requires patience and persistence. Consistently reinforce positive thoughts and behaviors to create lasting change.

3. Take up space to project high status

"Low status people tend to make themselves small, invisible, sitting or standing in an uncomfortable way."

Expand your presence: High-status individuals aren't afraid to take up space. This doesn't mean being inconsiderate, but rather being comfortable with your presence and not trying to make yourself smaller.

Ways to take up space:

• Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart
• Use open arm gestures when speaking
• Sit with your legs uncrossed and arms relaxed
• Don't be afraid to stretch or adjust your position
• When seated, use nearby surfaces to expand your territory (e.g., draping an arm over an adjacent chair)

By occupying more space, you communicate confidence and dominance, which others will naturally respond to.

4. Slow down movements and speech for dominance

"Cut your movements in half."

Deliberate pacing: Moving and speaking slowly conveys confidence and control. It suggests that you're not rushed or anxious, but rather in command of your time and actions.

Implementing slow movement:

• Take deep breaths to naturally slow your pace
• Pause before responding to questions
• Use deliberate gestures when speaking
• Walk at a measured, unhurried pace
• Resist the urge to fidget or make unnecessary movements

Practice slowing down in low-pressure situations until it becomes natural. This measured approach will make you appear more authoritative and in control.

5. Maintain strong eye contact and be non-reactive

"Pierce a girl's soul just by looking in her eyes."

Power of gaze: Strong eye contact communicates confidence and interest. It creates a connection and can be a powerful tool for attraction and influence.

Eye contact techniques:

• Maintain eye contact for slightly longer than feels comfortable
• Use the "triangle technique": alternate between the eyes and mouth
• Don't be the first to look away in a conversation
• Practice "soft focus" to avoid staring too intensely

Non-reactivity: Remain calm and composed in the face of external stimuli or provocations. This demonstrates emotional control and high status.

• Don't immediately respond to every noise or distraction
• Keep your facial expressions neutral when faced with surprises
• Avoid nervous laughter or excessive agreeableness
• Take a moment to consider your response before reacting

6. Master the art of leaning back and claiming space

"Learn to lean back most of the time."

Power posture: Leaning back communicates relaxation and confidence. It suggests that you're comfortable in your environment and not overly eager to please.

Leaning techniques:

• When seated, recline slightly in your chair
• Stand with your weight on one leg, hip slightly cocked
• Lean against walls or surfaces when standing in groups
• Keep your shoulders relaxed and down
• Avoid hunching forward or crossing your arms defensively

Additionally, claim your space by positioning yourself in power spots:

• Stand or sit with your back to a wall
• Choose central locations in a room
• Don't be afraid to move furniture slightly to accommodate your position

7. Develop a powerful, masculine walk

"They walk in different ways, but there are five characteristics that can be easily found in all their movements."

Components of a powerful walk:

1. Tall, open posture with shoulders back
2. Clear sense of purpose and direction
3. Smooth, controlled movements
4. Masculine energy and confidence
5. Looking beyond the immediate crowd

Practicing your walk:

• Visualize confident role models and emulate their style
• Film yourself walking and analyze your posture and movement
• Practice in front of a mirror to refine your technique
• Focus on one aspect of your walk at a time until it becomes natural
• Ask for feedback from trusted friends or a body language coach

Remember, a powerful walk should feel natural and comfortable, not forced or exaggerated.

8. Use body language tricks to boost perceived status

"Every great leader out there knows that your thumbs are the most confident of your fingers."

Quick status boosters:

• Show your thumbs when your hands are in your pockets
• Cross your arms with confidence, not defensively
• Use the "steeple" hand gesture when speaking
• Stand with your feet slightly wider than hip-width
• Angle your body slightly away from others to create intrigue

Managing critiques: When faced with criticism or challenges, maintain your composure. Accept feedback graciously without becoming defensive, which demonstrates true confidence and high status.

9. Practice and visualize to internalize high-status behaviors

"Visualize yourself walking on the streets in a dominant, relaxed… awesome way."

Consistent practice: Developing high-status body language requires consistent effort and practice. Make it a daily habit to work on your posture, movements, and nonverbal communication.

Visualization techniques:

• Create a mental movie of yourself exhibiting confident body language
• Imagine successful interactions and outcomes
• Use all your senses to make the visualization vivid and realistic
• Practice visualization before important events or interactions
• Combine visualization with physical practice for maximum impact

Remember, your subconscious mind can't differentiate between real and imagined experiences. By consistently visualizing confident behaviors, you're training your brain to adopt these patterns in real life.

Last updated: August 16, 2024