Love is the Killer App

1. Love is the killer app: Nice, smart people succeed in business

"Those of us who use love as a point of differentiation in business will separate ourselves from our competitors just as world-class distance runners separate themselves from the rest of the pack trailing behind them."

Redefining business success. In the rapidly changing business landscape, the most successful professionals are those who embrace "love" as their killer application. This doesn't mean romantic love, but rather a genuine commitment to adding value to others' lives through knowledge, networks, and compassion. By focusing on these intangibles, professionals can differentiate themselves and achieve greater success than those who rely on traditional cutthroat tactics.

The lovecat advantage. Lovecats, as Sanders calls them, enjoy several benefits:

• Building an outstanding personal brand
• Creating memorable experiences for others
• Gaining access to people's attention
• Harnessing the power of positive presumption
• Receiving exceptional feedback
• Achieving personal satisfaction

By adopting this approach, professionals can navigate the new economy more effectively and find greater fulfillment in their work.

2. Knowledge is power: Read and share valuable insights

"Congratulations! You've just achieved traction as a student."

Become a knowledge powerhouse. The foundation of being a lovecat is continuously acquiring and sharing knowledge. This involves:

1. Aggregation: Collecting relevant books and information
2. Encoding: Actively reading and taking notes
3. Processing: Reviewing and internalizing the material
4. Application: Sharing insights with others

Practical tips for knowledge acquisition:

• Focus on hardcover business books (80% of reading time)
• Develop a system for tagging and summarizing key points
• Create a personal library at work
• Share book recommendations and insights with colleagues
• Apply newfound knowledge to solve business problems

By becoming a "walking encyclopedia" of valuable information, you position yourself as an indispensable resource for your network.

3. Network wisely: Connect people without expectation

"Whenever you introduce two people and produce value, you have been taught to feel that you should capture some of that value, and usually even ask for it up front. This is one of our earliest lessons in the old economy: If you don't throw down the gauntlet, people will screw you."

Rethink networking. Traditional networking often involves expecting something in return for introductions or favors. The lovecat approach flips this script by connecting people without expectation of personal gain. This reduces friction in relationships and allows your network to grow exponentially.

Steps to effective networking:

1. Collecting: Gather contacts and organize them systematically
2. Connecting: Thoughtfully introduce people who can benefit each other
3. Disappearing: Step back once the connection is made

By focusing on creating value for others rather than immediate personal gain, you build a reputation as a trusted connector and expand your network's reach and influence.

4. Show compassion: Humanize the workplace

"Just because we're at work doesn't mean that we're not human; sometimes we need someone to touch us, to make us smile, to make us feel better about ourselves."

Bring humanity back to work. In an increasingly digital and impersonal business world, showing genuine compassion can set you apart. This involves:

• Actively listening to colleagues and partners
• Expressing genuine care for others' success and well-being
• Using appropriate physical touch (e.g., handshakes, hugs) when welcomed
• Offering sincere compliments and recognition

Benefits of workplace compassion:

• Creates a more positive and productive environment
• Builds stronger, more loyal relationships
• Increases forgiveness when mistakes occur
• Helps others grow and develop professionally

By incorporating compassion into your professional interactions, you create a more fulfilling work experience for yourself and those around you.

5. Become a lovecat: Combine knowledge, network, and compassion

"Lovecats don't just give you what you need—we are what you need."

The lovecat trifecta. To truly succeed as a lovecat, you must integrate all three core elements:

1. Knowledge: Continuously learn and share valuable insights
2. Network: Connect people without expectation of personal gain
3. Compassion: Show genuine care for others' success and well-being

Synergistic effects. When these elements work together, they create a powerful personal brand:

• Your knowledge makes people value your insights and recommendations
• Your network allows you to connect people with valuable resources and opportunities
• Your compassion builds trust and loyalty, making people more receptive to your ideas and connections

By consistently demonstrating all three qualities, you become an indispensable resource in your professional community, leading to greater success and satisfaction in your career.

6. Create memorable experiences through bizlove

"When you care about someone, you are more likely to listen to what I say. People love to hear about themselves. Their attention spans sharpen when the discussion centers on them."

Stand out through experiences. In the modern business world, creating memorable experiences is key to building strong relationships and a powerful personal brand. Bizlove – the combination of knowledge, network, and compassion – allows you to craft unique and valuable interactions with colleagues, clients, and partners.

Ways to create memorable experiences:

• Share personalized, relevant knowledge that addresses specific needs
• Make thoughtful introductions that lead to valuable partnerships
• Show genuine interest in others' success and well-being
• Use compassionate gestures (e.g., handwritten notes, thoughtful gifts) to reinforce connections

By focusing on creating positive, memorable experiences for others, you differentiate yourself from the competition and build a loyal network of supporters and advocates.

7. Overcome rejection and learn from mistakes

"When I first became expressive, rejection seemed enormous, just as it did in my personal life. But I learned that if you put yourself in rejection's line of fire, you'll see that even the bullets that hit don't draw blood."

Embrace the learning process. Becoming a successful lovecat takes practice and persistence. You will face rejection and make mistakes along the way. The key is to:

• Recognize that rejection is often a reflexive response, not a personal attack
• Learn from each experience to refine your approach
• Maintain authenticity and sincerity in all interactions
• Be willing to apologize and make amends when you fall short

Common challenges and solutions:

• Overcommitting: Be realistic about what you can offer and deliver
• Getting cut out of opportunities: Focus on the long-term relationship, not short-term gains
• Forgetting boundaries: Maintain professionalism while showing compassion

By viewing setbacks as learning opportunities and maintaining your commitment to bizlove, you can overcome obstacles and continue to grow as a lovecat professional.

Last updated: July 22, 2024