Muslim Girl

1. Growing up Muslim in post-9/11 America: A journey of identity and resilience

I still remember hearing the story of Cennet Doganay—the French schoolgirl who shaved her head in 2004 in protest of France's new law banning Islamic headscarves from school—when I was in middle school.

Childhood shaped by global events. The author's experiences as a young Muslim girl in America were profoundly impacted by the events of 9/11 and its aftermath. She witnessed the shift in societal attitudes towards Muslims and faced increased discrimination and bullying at school.

Struggle for belonging. Growing up, the author grappled with her identity, feeling caught between two worlds - her Muslim heritage and American upbringing. This internal conflict was exacerbated by external pressures and stereotypes, leading to moments of self-doubt and a desire to fit in.

Finding strength in role models. Stories of resistance and resilience, like that of Cennet Doganay, inspired the author to embrace her identity and stand up against discrimination. These examples of courage helped shape her own journey of self-discovery and activism.

2. The power of online communities in shaping Muslim women's narratives

I craved more. The way Islamophobia squeezed me out of finding connections with my surroundings led me to searching for them online, seeking spaces for open and refreshing discourse that I couldn't have anywhere else.

Virtual safe spaces. The internet became a refuge for the author, providing access to diverse perspectives and discussions about Islam that were not available in her immediate surroundings. Online platforms allowed her to explore her faith and identity more freely.

Birth of MuslimGirl.com. Recognizing the need for a dedicated space for young Muslim women, the author created a LiveJournal community that eventually evolved into MuslimGirl.com. This platform became a vital resource for:

• Sharing experiences and advice
• Discussing contemporary issues affecting Muslim women
• Challenging stereotypes and misconceptions about Islam

Empowerment through connection. The online community fostered a sense of sisterhood and empowerment among its members, providing support and encouragement in the face of societal challenges.

3. Reclaiming the hijab: Personal choice and societal perceptions

My response was met with several moments of raucous applause from the woke San Francisco student audience. In those brief seconds, I was merely reacting to a latent offense I felt at his words. "For a Muslim woman."

Personal journey with hijab. The author's decision to wear the hijab was a deeply personal and independent choice, influenced by her experiences in Jordan and her desire to reclaim her Muslim identity. This decision was both empowering and challenging.

Societal reactions. Wearing the hijab in America exposed the author to increased scrutiny and discrimination. She faced:

• Assumptions about her abilities and background
• Stereotyping and microaggressions
• Heightened visibility in public spaces

Challenging narratives. The author used her platform to challenge societal perceptions of hijab-wearing women, emphasizing that their achievements should be recognized on their own merit, not solely through the lens of their religious identity.

4. Navigating double consciousness as a Muslim American

I'm not sure if every young person experiences a moment when they are confronted, point-blank, by their own naiveté, when it shakes them awake and dissolves that fantastical dream of how big the world is and their sheer power to possess it.

Dual identities. The author experienced the struggle of maintaining her Muslim identity while also striving to be accepted as an American. This duality created internal conflicts and external challenges in various aspects of her life.

Constant awareness. Living with this double consciousness meant being constantly aware of how her actions and appearance might be perceived by both Muslim and non-Muslim communities. This heightened self-awareness influenced her decisions and behaviors.

Breaking stereotypes. The author's experiences motivated her to challenge both Muslim and American stereotypes, working to create a more nuanced understanding of what it means to be a Muslim American woman.

5. The impact of media representation on Muslim identities

When we consider this, it becomes easier to understand how our media simply does not look like the world around us. The people included in the process are not representative of the marginalized people who would most benefit from more accurate and positive depictions of them.

Misrepresentation in media. The author highlights how mainstream media often portrays Muslims, especially Muslim women, in stereotypical and limited ways. This misrepresentation contributes to:

• Perpetuation of harmful stereotypes
• Lack of diverse Muslim narratives
• Increased discrimination and misunderstanding

Personal experiences in media. The author shares her own encounters with media representation, including her internship at Vice and her speaking engagements. These experiences revealed the challenges of navigating spaces that often lack diverse perspectives.

Creating alternative narratives. MuslimGirl.com became a platform for countering mainstream media narratives by providing authentic voices and stories from Muslim women themselves.

6. Challenging stereotypes and breaking barriers in mainstream spaces

"Sometimes you have to play the game to change the game," I admit to Contessa. Play the system so you can share the stage with Bill Clinton and then mention the Boycott, Divestment, and Sanctions movement.

Strategic engagement. The author recognized the importance of participating in mainstream platforms to amplify Muslim women's voices and challenge stereotypes. This involved:

• Speaking at high-profile events
• Engaging with political figures
• Leveraging media appearances

Balancing act. Navigating these spaces required a delicate balance between conforming to certain expectations and staying true to one's values and message. The author grappled with the complexities of representation and tokenization.

Creating change from within. By strategically engaging with mainstream platforms, the author aimed to create opportunities for more diverse voices and perspectives to be heard, ultimately working towards systemic change.

7. The intersection of Islamophobia, racism, and gender discrimination

We are on the front lines of Islamophobia. Physical assault, hate crimes, and harassment against us are not only attacks upon us as individuals, but attacks on Islam itself.

Multiple layers of discrimination. Muslim women, particularly those who wear hijab, face intersecting forms of discrimination based on their religion, race, and gender. This creates unique challenges and vulnerabilities.

Heightened vulnerability. The author describes how visible Muslim women often become targets for Islamophobic attacks and harassment, bearing the brunt of societal hostilities towards Islam.

Societal impact. The intersection of these forms of discrimination affects various aspects of Muslim women's lives, including:

• Personal safety and security
• Educational and professional opportunities
• Mental health and well-being

8. Empowering Muslim women through entrepreneurship and digital platforms

Muslim Girl became a start-up because it had to. For us, entrepreneurialism is a means to an end. It's survival.

Necessity-driven innovation. The creation of MuslimGirl.com was a response to the lack of platforms for Muslim women's voices and the need to counter negative stereotypes. Entrepreneurship became a tool for survival and empowerment.

Digital empowerment. The platform provided opportunities for:

• Amplifying diverse Muslim women's voices
• Creating economic opportunities for writers and content creators
• Building a supportive community and network

Challenges and growth. The author details the journey of growing MuslimGirl.com from a small blog to a influential media platform, highlighting the challenges and successes along the way.

9. Confronting microaggressions and the constant negotiation of identity

This, my friends, is how you manufacture hate.

Daily challenges. The author describes the constant negotiation of identity that Muslim women face in their daily lives, including:

• Dealing with invasive questions and assumptions
• Navigating public spaces with heightened awareness
• Adapting behaviors to avoid negative attention

Impact of microaggressions. These subtle forms of discrimination take a toll on mental health and self-esteem, creating a constant state of vigilance and self-doubt.

Resistance strategies. The author shares various ways of coping with and resisting microaggressions, including:

• Using humor as a defense mechanism
• Building supportive communities
• Speaking out against discrimination

10. The role of humor and sisterhood in coping with discrimination

Thus began the Summer of Hustle. I made the painful and terrifying decision to throw Al Jazeera America out the window, give everything I had to Muslim Girl for just one summer, and see what would come of it.

Humor as a coping mechanism. The author and her peers often turned to humor to deal with the absurdities and challenges of navigating life as Muslim women in America. This helped create resilience and maintain a sense of optimism.

Power of sisterhood. The community built through MuslimGirl.com and other networks provided crucial support and solidarity. This sisterhood offered:

• Emotional support and understanding
• Shared experiences and advice
• Collective strength in facing discrimination

Turning challenges into opportunities. The "Summer of Hustle" exemplifies how the author and her peers channeled their frustrations and experiences into positive action, creating opportunities for themselves and others in the process.

Last updated: April 22, 2025