The Presence Process

1. Presence is our authentic state of being, accessible through present moment awareness

Presence is our best friend and closest companion, our champion and guard of honor. It carries our flag and supplies. It sends us off enthusiastically and it's present to greet us as we access present moment awareness.

Presence is our essence. It's the unchanging, eternal aspect of our being that exists beyond the confines of time and space. Unlike our constantly changing physical, mental, and emotional experiences, Presence remains constant and serves as the foundation of our authentic self.

Present moment awareness is the key. By cultivating present moment awareness, we can access this state of Presence. This involves shifting our attention from past regrets and future anxieties to the here and now. It's about fully experiencing and engaging with life as it unfolds in each moment, without judgment or resistance.

Benefits of living in Presence:

• Increased peace and contentment
• Enhanced clarity and intuition
• Greater resilience in face of challenges
• Improved relationships and communication
• A deeper sense of connection to all life

2. Emotional imprinting shapes our unconscious behavior patterns

The unconscious consequence of childhood is that we all receive this emotional baton from our parents so that we may take our part in the human race.

Childhood imprinting is inevitable. During our first seven years of life, we unconsciously absorb emotional patterns, beliefs, and behaviors from our parents and environment. This imprinting forms the foundation of our unconscious definition of love and shapes how we interact with the world as adults.

Imprinting affects all aspects of life. Our unconscious emotional patterns influence:

• How we form relationships
• Our career choices and work habits
• Our approach to money and abundance
• Our physical health and well-being
• Our ability to experience joy and fulfillment

Breaking the cycle requires awareness. Recognizing these imprinted patterns is the first step towards changing them. By bringing awareness to our unconscious behaviors and emotional reactions, we can begin to make conscious choices that align with our authentic selves rather than our conditioning.

3. Integrating charged emotions is key to personal transformation

Feeling them – without placing conditions on our experience of them – initiates integration.

Emotional integration is crucial. Rather than suppressing or avoiding uncomfortable emotions, the path to transformation involves fully feeling and accepting them. This process of integration allows us to release the energetic charge associated with past experiences and reclaim our emotional wholeness.

The integration process:

1. Identify triggered emotions
2. Feel the emotion fully without judgment
3. Trace the emotion to its origin in childhood
4. Allow the emotion to move through you
5. Recognize the wisdom or lesson within the emotion

Benefits of emotional integration:

• Increased emotional resilience
• Greater self-awareness and authenticity
• Improved relationships and communication
• Enhanced creativity and problem-solving abilities
• A deeper sense of inner peace and contentment

4. The emotional integration procedure: A tool for conscious living

Reactive behavior is unconscious behavior. The more present we become, the less we entertain this state.

The three-step procedure. The emotional integration procedure is a powerful tool for transforming reactive behavior into conscious response:

1. Dismiss the messenger: Recognize that the person or situation triggering you is merely reflecting an unintegrated aspect of yourself.
2. Receive the message: Turn inward and feel the emotional resonance being triggered.
3. Feel unconditionally: Allow yourself to fully experience the emotion without trying to change or understand it.

Practicing in daily life. Apply this procedure whenever you feel emotionally triggered. With consistent practice, you'll develop greater emotional awareness and the ability to respond consciously rather than react unconsciously.

Long-term benefits:

• Decreased reactivity in challenging situations
• Improved relationships and communication
• Greater sense of personal empowerment
• Enhanced ability to navigate life's ups and downs
• Increased overall life satisfaction and well-being

5. Consciously connected breathing anchors us in the present

There's no way to breathe in the past or in the future. We can only breathe in the present.

Breath is our anchor. Consciously connected breathing is a simple yet powerful technique for cultivating present moment awareness. By focusing on our breath, we naturally bring our attention to the here and now, interrupting the mind's tendency to wander into past or future.

The practice:

• Sit comfortably with a straight spine
• Breathe in and out without pausing between breaths
• Apply effort to the in-breath, allowing the out-breath to be automatic
• Synchronize your breath with the phrase "I am here now in this"
• Practice for 15 minutes, twice daily

Benefits of consciously connected breathing:

• Increased present moment awareness
• Reduced anxiety and stress
• Improved focus and concentration
• Enhanced emotional regulation
• Greater overall sense of well-being

6. Forgiveness and unconditional love are pathways to inner peace

Unconditional love is for giving. Unconditional love is forgiving. We forgive ourselves through unconditional love.

Forgiveness liberates us. Holding onto resentment and blame keeps us trapped in the past and disconnected from our authentic selves. By choosing forgiveness – for ourselves and others – we free ourselves from the burden of past hurts and open the door to inner peace.

Unconditional love is our nature. At our core, we are expressions of unconditional love. By learning to love ourselves unconditionally, we develop the capacity to extend that love to others. This involves:

• Accepting ourselves fully, flaws and all
• Treating ourselves with kindness and compassion
• Recognizing our inherent worthiness, regardless of external circumstances

Practicing forgiveness and unconditional love:

1. Identify areas where you're holding onto resentment or self-judgment
2. Practice self-compassion and understanding for your past actions
3. Recognize that others are doing the best they can with their level of awareness
4. Choose to release grudges and extend forgiveness, even if the other person doesn't "deserve" it
5. Cultivate gratitude for the lessons and growth opportunities in all experiences

7. Living on purpose means embracing the unified field of existence

There's only one Presence and it resides within all. Everything is its manifestation and expression.

We are all connected. At the deepest level, we are all expressions of the same unified field of existence. Recognizing this interconnectedness shifts our perspective from separation to unity and allows us to live with greater purpose and harmony.

Living on purpose involves:

• Recognizing the sacred in everyday moments
• Trusting in the inherent wisdom of life's unfolding
• Serving others as an expression of our shared essence
• Cultivating gratitude for all experiences, pleasant and challenging
• Aligning our actions with the greater good of the whole

Benefits of embracing unity:

• Increased sense of belonging and connection
• Greater compassion for self and others
• Enhanced creativity and problem-solving abilities
• Reduced fear and anxiety about the future
• A deeper sense of meaning and purpose in life

Last updated: August 28, 2024