How to Get What You Want and Want What You Have

1. Personal success is achieving inner fulfillment and outer achievements

Personal success is getting what you want and continuing to want what you have.

Balance inner and outer success. Personal success involves both inner fulfillment and outer achievements. It's not just about getting what you want, but also appreciating and wanting what you already have. This balance leads to true happiness and contentment.

Develop inner success first. Focus on cultivating inner peace, love, joy, and confidence before pursuing external goals. This inner foundation allows you to enjoy your achievements and remain resilient in the face of challenges.

Understand the illusion of external success. Recognize that outer success alone cannot bring lasting happiness. Material achievements may provide temporary satisfaction but often lead to a cycle of wanting more. True fulfillment comes from within and allows you to enjoy external successes without becoming dependent on them.

2. Fill your ten love tanks to connect with your true self

To lead a full and rich life is not only possible, but our duty. God wants you to have it all just as much as you do.

Identify and fill your love tanks. There are ten different types of love and support that every person needs:

• God's love (Vitamin G1)
• Parents' love (Vitamin P1)
• Family, friends, and fun (Vitamin F)
• Peer support (Vitamin P2)
• Self-love (Vitamin S)
• Romantic love (Vitamin R)
• Love for dependents (Vitamin D)
• Community service (Vitamin C)
• World contribution (Vitamin W)
• Serving God (Vitamin G2)

Recognize your current needs. Each love tank corresponds to a specific stage of life, but all are important throughout your journey. Identify which tanks are low and focus on filling them to maintain balance and connection with your true self.

Practice filling your tanks. Engage in activities that nourish each type of love. For example, meditate to connect with God's love, spend time with friends for vitamin F, or volunteer to fill your community service tank. Regularly assess and replenish your love tanks to maintain overall well-being and personal success.

3. Practice interactive meditation to tap into spiritual energy

Meditation is shifting your attention to the part of yourself that is already connected to God.

Learn interactive meditation. This practice involves repeating a phrase like "Oh God, my heart is open to you, please come sit in my heart" while focusing on your fingertips. This technique helps you connect with spiritual energy and experience inner peace and joy.

Establish a regular practice. Meditate for 15 minutes twice a day to develop the habit of connecting with your inner self and spiritual energy. Consistency is key to experiencing the full benefits of this practice.

Set intentions after meditation. Use the clarity and connection you gain from meditation to visualize your day and set positive intentions. This process helps align your actions with your true desires and increases your power to create what you want in life.

4. Learn to process and release negative emotions

To let go of anxiety, I do this little process. I ask myself what I am afraid of. Then I ask myself, "Do I know for sure that those things will happen?"

Understand the importance of emotions. Negative emotions are not inherently bad; they serve as signals to help you find balance and reconnect with your true self. Learning to process and release these emotions is crucial for personal growth and success.

Use the four methods to process emotions:

1. Change the emotion (shift from one feeling to another)
2. Change the content (explore different aspects of the situation)
3. Change the clock (link current feelings to past experiences)
4. Change the subject (focus on others' pain to gain perspective)

Practice emotional fluency. Regularly engage with your emotions using these methods to develop greater emotional intelligence and resilience. This skill will help you navigate challenges more effectively and maintain a connection to your true self.

5. Give up resistance and honor all your desires

What you resist persists.

Recognize the futility of resistance. Resisting what you don't want often reinforces it and drains your energy. Instead of focusing on what you don't want, shift your attention to what you do want.

Honor all levels of desire. Acknowledge and respect desires from your:

• Soul (inner fulfillment)
• Mind (intellectual pursuits)
• Heart (emotional needs)
• Body (physical well-being)

Align your desires. Work towards harmonizing desires from all levels to identify your true desires. When a desire is in harmony with all aspects of yourself, it becomes a powerful force for creating positive change in your life.

6. Remove the twelve blocks to personal success

When you are blocked, you are upset about many things at once.

Identify your blocks. The twelve common blocks to personal success are:

1. Blame
2. Depression
3. Anxiety
4. Indifference
5. Judgment
6. Indecision
7. Procrastination
8. Perfectionism
9. Resentment
10. Self-pity
11. Confusion
12. Guilt

Understand the nature of blocks. Blocks are different from negative emotions. Feeling blocks only reinforces them, while processing negative emotions can lead to release and growth.

Develop strategies to overcome blocks. For each block, learn specific techniques to recognize and release the underlying emotions. This process helps you reconnect with your true self and unlock your potential for personal success.

7. Use healing meditations and practices to overcome emotional blocks

To heal emotional blocks, you must feel childlike emotions.

Practice the four-step process:

1. Identify your block and link it to the past
2. Write a feeling letter
3. Write a response letter
4. Write a connection letter

Use the Feelings Chart. This tool helps you identify the appropriate emotions to explore for each block, providing a structured approach to emotional processing.

Engage in regular healing practices. Consistently use these techniques to process past experiences, release blocked emotions, and reconnect with your true self. This ongoing practice will help you maintain emotional balance and increase your capacity for personal success.

Last updated: October 5, 2024