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I Stand Corrected

I Stand Corrected

How Teaching Western Manners in China Became Its Own Unforgettable Lesson
by Eden Collinsworth 2014 272 pages
3.19
100+ ratings
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Key Takeaways

1. Cultural Immersion: A Journey Through China's Etiquette

"Anything in China is possible."

Embrace the unfamiliar. Eden Collinsworth's journey into Chinese culture begins with her decision to write a book on Western business etiquette for Chinese readers. This endeavor forces her to confront and adapt to the vast differences between Eastern and Western customs.

Navigate social norms. In China, seemingly simple interactions can be fraught with cultural nuances:

  • Handshakes are often limp, a sign of respect rather than weakness
  • Personal space is virtually non-existent
  • Direct eye contact may be considered confrontational
  • Loud voices and public displays of affection are frowned upon

Learn by doing. Collinsworth's experiences, from business meetings to social gatherings, illustrate the importance of cultural sensitivity and adaptability. Her mishaps and successes provide valuable lessons for anyone looking to engage with Chinese culture.

2. The Power of Guanxi: Navigating Relationships in Chinese Business

"Like most idioms, guanxi is not easily translated into a single word that mirrors its meaning. 'Relationships or connections outside the family' is the closest one might come to the meaning of what is at the very core of Chinese society and culture."

Understand the network. Guanxi is the lifeblood of Chinese business and social interactions. It's a complex system of reciprocal favors and obligations that extends far beyond simple networking.

Build and maintain connections. Cultivating guanxi requires:

  • Patience and long-term commitment
  • Regular social interactions and gift-giving
  • Understanding and respecting hierarchies
  • Willingness to provide and receive favors

Recognize its limitations. While guanxi can open doors and facilitate business, it's important to balance these relationships with ethical considerations and legal compliance, especially for Western companies operating in China.

3. Confucian Values: The Foundation of Chinese Society

"Confucian principles stress the importance of hierarchical relationships in achieving a stable and harmonious society."

Embrace hierarchy. Confucianism emphasizes respect for authority and age, shaping social and business interactions in China. This manifests in:

  • Deference to elders and superiors
  • Emphasis on collective harmony over individual desires
  • Strong family ties and filial piety

Understand the long view. Confucian thought promotes long-term thinking and patience, influencing Chinese business strategies and personal relationships.

Recognize evolving interpretations. While Confucian values remain influential, their application in modern China is complex and sometimes contradictory, especially as the country grapples with rapid economic and social change.

4. China's Economic Transformation: From Mao to Modern Capitalism

"China has come by its reputation for censorship without apology."

Rapid growth, complex challenges. China's economic miracle has lifted millions out of poverty but created new social and environmental issues:

  • Urbanization and rural-urban migration
  • Income inequality
  • Environmental degradation
  • Corruption and cronyism

State capitalism with Chinese characteristics. The Chinese economy blends:

  • State-owned enterprises
  • Private businesses
  • Government intervention and regulation
  • Global market integration

Understand the long-term vision. China's economic policies often prioritize stability and long-term growth over short-term gains, influencing both domestic and international business strategies.

5. The Challenges of Cross-Cultural Communication

"To be fair, how was I expected to grasp the content of sentences that hang in the air attached to nothing at all?"

Language barriers go beyond words. Effective communication in China requires understanding:

  • The importance of context and indirect communication
  • Non-verbal cues and body language
  • The role of silence and pauses in conversation

Adapt your communication style. Western directness can be seen as rude or confrontational in China. Learn to:

  • Use more subtle and indirect language
  • Avoid public criticism or disagreement
  • Employ intermediaries when necessary

Embrace patience and repetition. Clear communication often requires multiple conversations and follow-ups to ensure mutual understanding.

6. Gender Dynamics in China: Tradition Meets Modernity

"Shengnu, or 'leftover woman,' is a term China's Ministry of Education has added to its official lexicon. It describes an urban professional woman over the age of twenty-seven."

Traditional expectations persist. Despite economic progress, Chinese women face:

  • Pressure to marry young
  • Discrimination in the workplace
  • Conflicting demands of career and family

Changing roles and opportunities. Modern China offers women:

  • Increased educational and career opportunities
  • Growing economic independence
  • Evolving social norms around marriage and family

Navigating the balance. Many Chinese women struggle to reconcile traditional values with modern aspirations, leading to personal and societal tensions.

7. The Art of Saving Face: A Crucial Aspect of Chinese Culture

"Keeping face is paramount; losing it, disastrous; taking it away from someone else, unforgivable."

Understand the concept. "Face" in Chinese culture represents:

  • Personal dignity and social standing
  • Reputation and honor
  • Respect for oneself and others

Practice face-saving techniques:

  • Avoid public criticism or confrontation
  • Use indirect language to disagree or refuse
  • Offer praise and respect, especially to superiors
  • Allow others to back down gracefully from conflicts

Recognize the consequences. Causing someone to lose face can damage relationships and hinder business dealings, sometimes irreparably.

8. China's Education System: Pressure, Performance, and Prospects

"Do not confine your children to your own learning, for they were born in another time."

High-stakes competition. The Chinese education system is characterized by:

  • Intense pressure to succeed academically
  • Emphasis on rote learning and standardized tests
  • Fierce competition for university placements

Balancing tradition and innovation. China faces challenges in:

  • Fostering creativity and critical thinking
  • Preparing students for a global economy
  • Addressing inequality in educational opportunities

Evolving landscape. Recent reforms aim to:

  • Reduce exam pressure
  • Promote well-rounded development
  • Improve vocational education options

9. The Complexities of Censorship in Modern China

"China has come by its reputation for censorship without apology."

Pervasive control. Censorship in China affects:

  • Traditional media (newspapers, television, radio)
  • Internet and social media
  • Academia and research
  • Arts and entertainment

Navigating restrictions. Chinese citizens and businesses develop strategies to:

  • Self-censor to avoid government scrutiny
  • Use coded language and metaphors
  • Exploit loopholes in the system

Global implications. China's censorship policies impact:

  • International businesses operating in China
  • Global information flow and academic exchange
  • Diplomatic relations and cultural understanding

10. Personal Growth Through Travel and Cultural Exchange

"Proust was right and the real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes."

Embrace discomfort. Travel and cultural immersion provide:

  • Opportunities to challenge preconceptions
  • New perspectives on one's own culture
  • Personal growth through adversity

Learn through experience. Collinsworth's journey demonstrates:

  • The value of first-hand cultural encounters
  • The importance of humility and adaptability
  • The transformative power of cross-cultural understanding

Share your insights. Cultural exchange is a two-way process:

  • Offer your own cultural perspectives respectfully
  • Act as a bridge between cultures
  • Use your experiences to promote greater global understanding

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Review Summary

3.19 out of 5
Average of 100+ ratings from Goodreads and Amazon.

I Stand Corrected received mixed reviews, with an average rating of 3.19 out of 5. Some readers enjoyed Collinsworth's witty writing style and insights into Chinese culture, while others found the book disjointed and lacking focus. Many felt the title was misleading, as the book contained more personal anecdotes and travel stories than information about teaching Western manners in China. Critics praised Collinsworth's storytelling but noted the book's wandering narrative and occasional cultural insensitivity. Overall, readers appreciated the book's entertaining qualities but wished for more cohesion and depth.

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About the Author

Eden Collinsworth is a well-traveled author and businesswoman with a diverse professional background. She has lived in various countries, including China, France, and the United States, and has worked in publishing and business consulting. Collinsworth's experiences abroad, particularly in China, inspired her to write a book on Western manners for Chinese businesspeople. She is known for her witty and self-deprecating writing style, often sharing personal anecdotes and observations about cultural differences. Collinsworth's son features prominently in her work, as she discusses raising him in different cultural contexts. Her unconventional career path and global perspective inform her writing and professional endeavors.

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