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Parenting with Theraplay®

Parenting with Theraplay®

Understanding Attachment and How to Nurture a Closer Relationship with Your Child
by Helen Rodwell 2017 160 pages
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1. Theraplay: Deepening Relationships Through Playful Connection

Theraplay is a way for adults and children to be together which deepens the relationship between them.

Focus on the relationship. Theraplay is not just about playing games; it's a therapeutic approach centered on strengthening the bond between a parent and child. It uses simple, interactive activities to create "in the moment" connections, fostering closeness and trust. The activities are a vehicle to help you connect and get along well, so the specific activities, in themselves, don’t matter.

Rooted in natural parenting. The approach draws inspiration from the intuitive ways successful parents interact with their children. It emphasizes providing safety, organization, play, delight, nurture, and encouragement, all while being present and connected with the child. Theraplay brings the focus back to the everyday interactions between you and your children.

Benefits for all families. Theraplay can be beneficial for any family, whether facing specific challenges or simply seeking to enhance their relationships. It offers tools to connect with children, address behavioral issues, and create a more joyful and cooperative family life. It’s not just a book to read, it is a book to put into practice.

2. Attachment Styles: Understanding Your Child's Relational Blueprint

The way your close relationships went when you were young can have a big effect on how you see yourself and the world.

Early relationships matter. Attachment theory highlights the profound impact of early relationships on a child's sense of self, expectations of others, and overall worldview. Sensitive and consistent caregiving fosters a secure attachment style, leading to feelings of safety, love, and worthiness.

Insecure attachment styles. When caregiving is inconsistent or unresponsive, children may develop insecure attachment styles, leading to feelings of unworthiness, distrust, and difficulty forming close relationships. These styles affect everyday life as the child grows.

Theraplay's role in healing. Theraplay gently challenges insecure attachment styles by creating positive, relationship-focused interactions. By building success into play and providing consistent support, Theraplay helps children develop a more secure sense of self and a greater capacity for connection. A key principle in Theraplay is to build in success to make the play go well, without negativity or criticism.

3. Structure: Providing Security and Predictability Through Leadership

We all need structure and predictability in order to feel safe.

Structure as a foundation. Structure in Theraplay is about creating a sense of security and predictability for the child. It involves the adult taking a reassuring and confident leadership role, helping to organize and support the child so that he can develop control over his body.

Key elements of structure:

  • Establishing routines and sequences
  • Helping the child regulate their body
  • Using activities with clear beginnings and ends
  • Setting limits and providing guidance for safety

Benefits of structure. When structure is present, children feel safe, secure, and better able to manage their emotions and behaviors. Parents also benefit from feeling competent and in control, leading to a more harmonious family life. It is about being a calm and clear guide.

4. Engagement: Cultivating "Now Moments" of Focused Connection

There is nothing better than shared moments of delight and connection with someone you love.

The power of presence. Engagement in Theraplay is about creating moments of emotional connection with the child, focusing on them in an exclusive way, and being sensitive to their state. It’s just me and you together.

Key elements of engagement:

  • Creating "now moments" of emotional connection
  • Focusing exclusively on the child
  • Being "in tune" with the child's state
  • Responding in a way that feels "just right"

Benefits of engagement. When engagement is present, children feel valued, wanted, and accepted. Parents also experience joy and satisfaction from connecting with their child, strengthening the bond between them. It is in this two-way moment that we are both fully focused on each other and are in harmony and sharing the joy of our companionship.

5. Nurture: Creating Safety and Value Through Soothing Care

Providing care and soothing helps your child feel wanted, loved and safe.

Meeting needs with warmth. Nurture in Theraplay is about taking care of the child so that they feel cared for and valued, interacting in ways that are soothing, calming, and reassuring, and making the world feel safe and predictable.

Key elements of nurture:

  • Providing physical and emotional care
  • Responding with soothing and calming actions
  • Creating a safe and predictable environment

Benefits of nurture. When nurture is present, children feel safe, loved, and worthy. Parents also experience the joy of providing comfort and support, strengthening the bond between them. It’s our job to look after you.

6. Challenge: Supporting Growth and Competence with Gentle Encouragement

You are capable of growing and of making a positive impact on the world and I will support you.

Encouraging exploration and growth. Challenge in Theraplay is about supporting the child's natural instincts to explore the world, helping them develop new skills, and managing experiences that give them the feeling of tension.

Key elements of challenge:

  • Supporting exploration and play
  • Encouraging skill development
  • Helping manage tension and excitement

Benefits of challenge. When challenge is present, children develop a sense of competence, confidence, and independence. Parents also experience the satisfaction of watching their child grow and thrive. Your child wants and needs to feel successful.

7. Transitions: Navigating Change with Playful Support

At transition points, lower your expectations and add support.

Transitions are stressful. Everyday transitions, such as waking up, starting activities, or moving from one place to another, can be challenging for children. These shifts involve letting go of one thing and organizing oneself for the next, which requires a complex set of skills.

Theraplay's role in transitions. Theraplay ideas can be used to support children through transitions by turning them into playful activities or games. This can help to divert attention from the stress of the transition and make the process more enjoyable.

Strategies for supporting transitions:

  • Turning movement into a game
  • Changing the pace and using rhythm
  • Using diversions and distractions
  • Being competitive in a playful way

8. Behavioral Issues: Understanding and Responding with Empathy and Connection

It is surprising how often a playful approach can overcome discipline issues.

Behavior as communication. Difficult behaviors are often a way for children to communicate unmet needs or underlying emotions. Understanding the reasons behind the behavior is crucial for responding effectively.

Theraplay's approach to behavior. Instead of relying on punishment or consequences, Theraplay focuses on building connection and understanding. By addressing the underlying needs and emotions, parents can help children develop more adaptive behaviors.

Strategies for addressing behavioral issues:

  • Diverting energy with playful activities
  • Providing nurture and comfort
  • Helping regulate emotions through structured play
  • Creating a safe and supportive environment

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Review Summary

4.38 out of 5
Average of 100+ ratings from Goodreads and Amazon.

Parenting with Theraplay® receives positive reviews for its practical strategies and accessible content. Readers appreciate its focus on emotional connection and non-verbal aspects. Some find it helpful for understanding childhood experiences and improving parenting skills. The book is praised for its quick, easy read and scientific approach. However, some reviewers note that it may be too basic for those already familiar with Theraplay concepts. Overall, readers find the book's perspective on parent-child interactions valuable, though some suggest professional guidance for deeper implementation.

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About the Author

Helen Rodwell is the author of Parenting with Theraplay®. As an expert in child development and parenting, Rodwell has written this book to introduce parents to the Theraplay approach. Her work focuses on helping parents build stronger emotional connections with their children through play-based activities. Rodwell's expertise in Theraplay techniques is evident in the book's practical strategies and explanations of child behavior. Her writing style is described as clear and accessible, making complex therapeutic concepts understandable for parents. Rodwell's background likely includes extensive experience in child psychology and family therapy, though specific details about her professional history are not provided in the given information.

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