Forgiveness

1. True Change Begins with Self-Awareness, Not Ideals.

If anything has to happen at all, then it has to happen through that person.

Acknowledge reality. We often hide our true selves behind "high ideals" like love or forgiveness. This pursuit of ideals is a subtle trick to avoid confronting our inner flaws. Genuine transformation only occurs when we acknowledge our actual state.

Embrace your truth. Trying to become good while ignoring inner flaws is a deception. External changes merely mask the same inner person. The first step towards a healthy mind is seeing your truth as a fact, not an ideology.

Integrate opposites. Life is integrated, not fragmented. Anger and forgiveness are degrees of the same energy. Suppressing anger makes forgiveness impotent; true strength in forgiveness comes from the capacity for fierce anger.

2. Apologies Mask a Lack of Love and Responsibility.

Apology is needed because there is no relationship.

Love understands. Apologies and explanations are substitutes for genuine connection. When love exists, understanding is inherent, making formal gestures unnecessary. True politeness is free of all formality.

Own your actions. Shifting responsibility (to society, fate, or circumstances) leads to unconsciousness. Love is always responsible, aware, and alert. A truly religious person takes full responsibility for all that is.

Truth needs no explanation. Explanations are often deceptive, used to hide something. Authenticity comes from living openly, without games or hidden motives. Being truthful means accepting your reality, even your fears.

3. "Sin" is Unawareness, Not Moral Transgression.

In my way of life, the word “sin” does not exist.

Priestly invention. Religions create guilt to control and subjugate people. Looking at beauty or feeling natural desires are not sins. Most "sins" are simply natural human experiences.

Forgetfulness is the root. The original meaning of "sin" is "forgetfulness" or unawareness. Mistakes arise from not being present. True repentance involves acknowledging and learning from these unconscious acts.

Autohypnosis. Jesus found people "drunk" – living in a state of unawareness or autohypnosis. This self-induced sleep is maintained by continuous thought and repetition. Society's propaganda also uses repetition to hypnotize.

4. Repentance is a Total Awakening, Not Mere Sorrow.

Nothing cleanses like repentance.

Heartfelt realization. True repentance is a profound, total realization of wasted life due to unawareness. It's not just feeling sorry, but a deep, existential cry from your being. This intensity cleanses the entire past.

Immediate transformation. Unlike karmic balancing, Jesus's key is immediate transformation through total repentance. It throws you into the here and now, freeing you from past burdens. This is an intensity of becoming alert.

Continuous awareness. This process builds mindfulness. By retrospectively observing past mistakes with awareness, you become more conscious. This practice helps you catch yourself earlier, eventually leading to continuous awareness.

5. Embrace Your Suffering to Transform It into Bliss.

Whenever anything is total, it turns into its opposite.

Suffering as meditation. When miserable, sit silently and feel the hurt intensely. Don't avoid or escape it with distractions or drugs. Absorb the pain, welcome it, and digest it.

Total acceptance. Accepting pain without rejection changes its energy and quality. Suffering can transform into ecstasy, and pain into joy. This is a profound secret of existence.

Hate to love. Just as a pendulum swings to its extreme before reversing, total hate can transform into total love. When an emotion is experienced fully, it has nowhere else to go but to its opposite.

6. You Are Responsible for Your Own Experience.

Can anybody prevent you from dropping your misery, from transforming your misery into bliss? Nobody.

No external blame. The ordinary mind constantly blames others for its suffering. This prevents any personal change. True insight recognizes: "I am responsible for myself."

Empowerment through responsibility. Once you accept full responsibility for your life, you realize you can change it at any moment. Even in chains, you can choose to sing or dance.

Gratitude to all. Be grateful to everyone—friends, enemies, favorable or unfavorable circumstances. They all create the context for your transformation. Every situation is an opportunity for meditation and awareness.

7. Beyond the Fragmented Mind: The Path to Wholeness.

Your child says one thing, your parent says something else, and your adult, rational mind says something else.

Inner crowd. The human mind is a crowd of conflicting voices: the spontaneous Child, the disciplined Parent, and the rational Adult. This internal conflict creates anxiety and prevents true peace.

Centered response. Buddha's unique contribution is to move beyond choosing any one voice. Remain in the center of this triangle, silent and mindful. From this centeredness, a total response arises.

Authentic action. This centered action is neither childish, parental, nor merely adult. It is your being acting, leading to contentment and fulfillment. All parts of you are integrated, and the many voices disappear.

8. Letting Go of Memory is the Door to Presence.

Memory holds us back in the past; it never allows us to be in the present.

Past is a burden. Taoism teaches that memory is the problem, a dead weight that prevents us from living in the present. The past is gone, and the future is often just an imagined repetition of it.

No-mind is presence. Dropping memory means dropping the mind and ego. This is not absentmindedness, but intense presence. A person of Tao acts from the immediate moment, like a clear mirror.

Live in the now. "Think not of the morrow." The beauty of existence lies in its constant newness. Embrace the present moment fully, like a drop of sweet honey, even amidst life's uncertainties.

9. Unconditional Forgiveness Dissolves All Barriers.

If you cannot forgive, you cannot love; if you cannot love, you cannot forgive.

Love and forgiveness are intertwined. Unconditional love and forgiveness prevent the accumulation of karma and remove barriers to vision. They allow you to see the divine in everyone, transcending distinctions.

Religiousness vs. morality. Morality is dead, borrowed, and creates hypocrisy and split personalities. Religiousness is alive, spontaneous, and arises anew from within. It is a state of being, not a set of rules.

Consciousness is conscience. True morality stems from consciousness, not external conditioning. Jesus's act of not condemning the adulterous woman, but turning judgment inward, exemplifies this. He transformed her by raising her consciousness, not by legalistic forgiveness.

10. Liberation from Guilt: No One Can Save You But Yourself.

Sin is the invention of the priest to create guilt in you.

No external salvation. The church's idea of Jesus's sacrifice for salvation is a distortion. Nobody can solve others' problems or be the salvation of the world. You create your own hell or heaven.

Growth, not sin. Adam and Eve's "original sin" was simply a natural act of disobedience, a necessary step towards maturity and individuality. Religions keep humanity immature to maintain control.

Forgive your past. Parents, like God, condition us unconsciously. Forgive them for their limitations. True freedom comes from cleansing yourself of these inner impressions, leading to compassion and gratitude.

Last updated: August 7, 2025