The Power of Fun

1. True Fun is the confluence of playfulness, connection, and flow

"True Fun is the confluence of playfulness, connection, and flow. Whenever these three states occur at the same time, we experience True Fun."

True Fun defined. True Fun is not just any enjoyable activity, but a specific state that occurs when three elements converge:

• Playfulness: A spirit of lightheartedness and freedom
• Connection: A sense of shared experience with others or the environment
• Flow: Complete absorption in the present moment, losing track of time

This combination creates a unique and powerful experience that energizes, nourishes, and refreshes us. True Fun is distinct from passive entertainment or Fake Fun, which may provide temporary pleasure but ultimately leave us feeling empty. By understanding this definition, we can better identify and create opportunities for True Fun in our lives.

2. Our lives are what we pay attention to, so prioritize True Fun

"We only experience what we pay attention to. We only remember what we pay attention to. Your choice of what to pay attention to in any given minute might not seem like a big deal, but taken together, these decisions are deeply consequential."

Attention shapes reality. Our attention is our most valuable resource, determining the quality and content of our experiences. By choosing to focus on opportunities for True Fun, we can dramatically improve our well-being and life satisfaction.

To prioritize True Fun:

• Regularly assess how you spend your time and attention
• Identify activities that generate playfulness, connection, and flow
• Consciously allocate more time and energy to these True Fun experiences
• Reduce time spent on activities that don't contribute to True Fun

By making True Fun a priority, we not only enjoy more meaningful experiences but also create memories that enrich our lives long-term.

3. Identify your personal fun magnets and fun factors

"Each of us has certain activities—and, for that matter, people, and settings—that are much more likely than others to trigger or enhance our feelings of playfulness, connection, and flow, and thus more likely to attract True Fun."

Discover your fun catalysts. Fun magnets are specific activities, people, or settings that consistently attract True Fun for you. Fun factors are the characteristics that create this magnetic pull. By identifying these, you can more easily create and recognize opportunities for True Fun.

To find your fun magnets and factors:

1. Reflect on past experiences of True Fun
2. Keep a fun times journal to track moments of playfulness, connection, and flow
3. Analyze patterns in these experiences to identify common elements
4. Experiment with new activities based on your discovered fun factors

Understanding your personal fun magnets and factors allows you to curate a life more conducive to True Fun, increasing your overall joy and satisfaction.

4. Create space for fun by reducing distractions and commitments

"If we want to have more True Fun, we need to make space."

Clear the clutter. To invite more True Fun into our lives, we must first create room for it by reducing mental and physical clutter, unnecessary commitments, and constant distractions.

Steps to create space for fun:

• Declutter your physical environment
• Minimize digital distractions by limiting notifications and screen time
• Learn to say no to non-essential commitments
• Practice mindfulness to quiet mental chatter
• Schedule unstructured time for spontaneity and play

By clearing space in our lives, we open up possibilities for True Fun to emerge and flourish. This often requires conscious effort and may feel uncomfortable at first, but it's essential for cultivating a more joyful and fulfilling life.

5. Pursue passions and interests to attract more True Fun

"The more interests, hobbies, and passions that you cultivate, the more knowledge and skills you will have, which in turn will give you more avenues into flow."

Cultivate diverse interests. Actively pursuing passions and interests not only provides enjoyment but also increases our capacity for True Fun by expanding our knowledge, skills, and opportunities for flow.

Benefits of pursuing passions:

• Increases likelihood of experiencing flow
• Provides more opportunities for connection with others
• Enhances creativity and problem-solving abilities
• Boosts overall life satisfaction and sense of purpose

Don't limit yourself to activities you're already good at. Embrace the role of a beginner and be willing to try new things. Remember, the goal is not perfection but the joy of exploration and growth.

6. Rebel against routine and expectations to invite playfulness

"Far from being frivolous or selfish, the pursuit of fun will help us achieve all of these goals. Life is not a zero-sum equation: we can care about fun and be conscientious citizens who are committed to improving the world—indeed, fun can give us more energy with which to do so."

Embrace playful rebellion. Breaking out of routines and challenging expectations can invite more playfulness and spontaneity into our lives, key components of True Fun.

Ways to rebel:

• Break from your usual routine occasionally
• Do something unexpected or slightly mischievous (within reason)
• Challenge societal or self-imposed expectations
• Say yes to spontaneous opportunities

Remember, rebellion in this context isn't about being destructive or irresponsible. It's about freeing yourself from unnecessary constraints and rediscovering your capacity for joy and playfulness.

7. Build playgrounds and traditions to foster True Fun

"Playgrounds crackle and flourish when real thought goes into them, when (often invisible) structure is baked into them, and when a host has the curiosity, willingness, and generosity of spirit to try."

Create fun-fostering environments. Playgrounds, in this context, are physical or metaphorical spaces that encourage True Fun by providing structure and permission for playfulness, connection, and flow.

Elements of effective playgrounds:

• Clear boundaries or rules that create a sense of safety
• Opportunities for interaction and shared experiences
• Flexibility for spontaneity and creativity
• Regular traditions or rituals that bring people together

By intentionally creating these environments, we can increase the likelihood of True Fun occurring and build stronger connections with others. This might involve hosting regular gatherings, creating new traditions, or simply designating spaces in your home for play and creativity.

8. Embrace a Fun Mindset to attract more joy and connection

"Adopting a Fun Mindset doesn't mean becoming saccharine and forcing yourself to be outgoing or ridiculous or constantly cheerful. Instead, having a Fun Mindset refers to the habit of intentionally approaching and reacting to your life in a way that is attractive to fun."

Cultivate fun-attracting habits. A Fun Mindset involves consciously choosing to approach life in ways that invite more playfulness, connection, and flow. This isn't about forcing cheerfulness, but about being open to and actively seeking opportunities for True Fun.

Strategies for developing a Fun Mindset:

• Practice being "easy-to-laugh"
• Say "yes, and" to build on others' ideas
• Seek out and appreciate absurdity in everyday life
• Look for ways to add playfulness to routine tasks
• Cultivate curiosity and openness to new experiences

By adopting these habits, you become more likely to notice and create opportunities for True Fun, enhancing your overall enjoyment of life.

9. Plan for fun with microdoses and booster shots

"The goal isn't to turn every second of your life into an outrageous explosion of fun. That would be impossible (and, honestly, a bit much—someone has to take out the trash)."

Balance fun planning. While spontaneity is important, planning for fun ensures that it doesn't get crowded out by other commitments. Use a combination of small, frequent "microdoses" and larger, occasional "booster shots" of fun.

Microdoses:

• Daily or weekly small activities that bring joy
• Examples: short phone calls with friends, brief creative sessions, playful moments with family

Booster shots:

• Larger, less frequent experiences that provide significant fun and energy
• Examples: vacations, special events, annual traditions with friends

By consciously incorporating both into your life, you create a sustainable approach to maintaining True Fun over the long term.

10. Invest in experiences and relationships over possessions

"Spending money on experiences—especially those that involve other people—has been repeatedly proven to be a much more effective way to boost your sense of well-being and happiness than spending the same amount of money on objects or possessions."

Prioritize experiences. Research consistently shows that investing in experiences and relationships provides more lasting happiness than accumulating material possessions.

Benefits of investing in experiences:

• Creates lasting memories
• Strengthens social bonds
• Provides opportunities for personal growth
• Often involves elements of True Fun (playfulness, connection, flow)

When allocating resources (time, money, energy), prioritize experiences that align with your fun magnets and factors. This might mean choosing a weekend trip with friends over buying a new gadget, or investing in classes or workshops that allow you to pursue your passions.

11. Maintain screen-life balance to create room for True Fun

"If we want to have any chance of taking back control and having True Fun, we have to know how we're being manipulated."

Reclaim your attention. Our devices, while useful, can also be major obstacles to True Fun. They're often designed to hijack our attention and keep us engaged in ways that don't truly satisfy us.

Strategies for better screen-life balance:

• Set specific times for checking emails and social media
• Create phone-free zones or times in your home
• Use apps to limit screen time or block distracting websites
• Practice regular "digital sabbaths" or tech-free periods
• Be mindful of how different apps and activities make you feel

By creating boundaries with our devices, we free up mental space and time for more fulfilling activities and increase our capacity for True Fun.

12. Keep at it: Make fun a lifelong priority

"Orienting your life around fun is like exercise: it's not something you can do once and then forget about."

Sustain the fun focus. Creating a fun-filled life is an ongoing process that requires consistent effort and attention. It's not about achieving a perfect state of constant fun, but about continually prioritizing and creating opportunities for True Fun.

Ways to keep fun a priority:

• Regularly reassess and update your fun magnets and factors
• Continue your fun times journal to track progress and insights
• Create and maintain a "fun toolkit" for inspiration and quick fun ideas
• Join or create a "fun squad" for mutual support and accountability
• Periodically take the fun frequency questionnaire to monitor progress

Remember to be kind to yourself in this process. Not every attempt at fun will succeed, and that's okay. The goal is to gradually shift your life towards more True Fun, enhancing your overall well-being and satisfaction in the long run.

Last updated: January 23, 2025