Embodiment

1. Your Body: A Vehicle for Joy, Not a Burden

You have a body to have fun.

Purpose of embodiment. The primary reason for having a body is to experience joy and pleasure. It's about feeling the sun, climbing trees, tasting flavors, and enjoying gentle touch. The body is meant to be a source of delight, not a source of pain or frustration.

Shifting perspective. Many people view their bodies as objects of judgment or as burdens to be managed. This book encourages a shift in perspective, urging readers to see their bodies as partners in experiencing life's joys. This involves:

• Releasing judgment
• Embracing vulnerability
• Being present with the body

Analogy of animals. Consider how animals enjoy their bodies—cats purring, dogs playing, horses running. Emulating this natural enjoyment can transform your relationship with your own body.

2. Communicate with Your Body: It's Conscious

Most of us don’t ask our body anything.

Body's intelligence. Your body is a conscious entity with its own desires and needs. It communicates these needs through sensations, cravings, and intuitive nudges. Learning to listen to your body is crucial for embodiment.

Practical techniques. There are several ways to improve communication with your body:

• Asking questions: "Body, what would you like to eat?" or "Body, what would you like to wear?"
• Muscle testing: Using physical responses to determine preferences.
• Paying attention: Noticing how your body reacts to different stimuli.

Example of clothing. The author shares an anecdote about his body's strong preference for linen over polyester, illustrating how attuned the body can be to subtle differences.

3. Humanoid vs. Human: Choose Creation over Limitation

Humanoids look for ways to make things better.

Two perspectives. There are two primary perspectives on Earth: human and humanoid. Humans tend to believe in limitations and accept things as they are, while humanoids are creators who seek to improve and innovate.

Characteristics of humanoids:

• Inventiveness
• Dissatisfaction with the status quo
• Belief in possibilities

Example of healing. The author recounts stories of spontaneous healing and physical transformations, highlighting the body's untapped potential when limitations are removed.

4. Embrace the Infinite Possibilities of Humanoid Embodiment

Your body probably has talents and abilities you haven’t acknowledged.

Beyond limitations. Humanoid embodiment involves recognizing and embracing the infinite possibilities of the body. This goes beyond conventional beliefs about what the body can do, including spontaneous changes in shape and size.

Author's experience. The author shares personal experiences of his body changing height and shape in response to different environments and people, challenging the notion of fixed physical limitations.

Claiming abilities. The key is to acknowledge and claim these abilities, rather than dismissing them as impossible. This involves:

• Being open to new possibilities
• Questioning limiting beliefs
• Acknowledging the body's potential

5. Live in Ten-Second Increments: Conscious Choice Over Autopilot

Each ten seconds of life is new.

Breaking autopilot. Most people live on autopilot, reacting to problems only when they arise. A more conscious approach involves living in ten-second increments, making deliberate choices in each moment.

Creating presence. By choosing each ten seconds, you create a life of presence and awareness. This allows you to respond to your body's needs and desires in real-time, rather than being driven by habit or expectation.

Practical application. Imagine waking up and perceiving the softness of the sheets, the scent on the pillow, and the warmth of the sun. Then, make a conscious choice for the next ten seconds.

6. True Caring: Honoring Your Body's Desires

True caring is acknowledging the infinite choice that each individual has.

Beyond control. True caring is not about controlling or imposing your will on others, including your body. It's about acknowledging their autonomy and honoring their choices, even if you don't agree with them.

Asking questions. Instead of assuming you know what's best for your body, ask it what it desires. This involves:

• Listening to its responses
• Honoring its requests
• Releasing judgment

Example of jogging. The author shares an experience of feeling tired but asking his body if it wanted to jog, and then honoring its affirmative response.

7. Follow the Energy, Not the Significance

One of the great things I’ve learned as an Access Consciousness® facilitator is to follow the energy of the person I’m working with and not to make anything significant.

Energy release. As an Access Consciousness facilitator, the author learned to follow the energy of others without making it significant. This allows for a more effective release of emotions and trauma.

Avoiding significance. Making emotions or events significant can lock them into the body, inhibiting their release. Instead, it's important to:

• Acknowledge the energy
• Avoid judgment
• Allow it to flow

Example of sadness. The author contrasts two experiences of working with clients, one where he made the sadness significant and one where he didn't, illustrating the difference in effectiveness.

8. Sexualness: The Essence of Embodiment

Sexualness is the honoring, the nurturing, the acknowledging, the caring and the healing of the universe.

Beyond copulation. Sexualness is not just about sex or copulation. It's a fundamental energy that encompasses honoring, nurturing, caring, and healing. It's the expansiveness, creativity, and gratitude of the universe.

Embracing sexualness. Embodying your sexualness allows everything else in your life to show up. This involves:

• Being open to receiving energy
• Being in communion with everything
• Releasing judgment

Nature as a model. The author notes that people often feel more sexual in nature, where they are free to receive energy from plants, animals, and the Earth.

9. Sex, Sensuality, and Copulation: Distinct Aspects of Embodiment

A lot of confusion gets created around the words sex, sexualness, sensuality, copulation and sexuality.

Defining terms. It's important to distinguish between sex, sexualness, sensuality, copulation, and sexuality. Each term has a distinct meaning, and understanding these differences can lead to greater clarity and freedom.

Definitions:

• Sex: Looking and feeling good, strutting your stuff.
• Sensuality: Enjoying the pleasant sensations of the body.
• Copulation: The act of putting bodies together.
• Sexuality: Your definition of your sexual nature, always a judgment.
• Sexualness: The honoring, the nurturing, the acknowledging, the caring and healing of the universe.

Releasing judgment. True sexualness involves releasing judgment and being open to receiving energy from everyone and everything.

10. Orgasmic Energy: The Creative Force of Life

Orgasmic energy is creative energy.

Creative potential. Orgasmic energy is the energy of creation. When this energy is flowing through your body, you are always "on," and it allows you to confront anything.

Masturbation as a tool. The author suggests that masturbation can be a powerful tool for increasing orgasmic energy and enhancing embodiment.

Beyond completion. Orgasm is not the completion of sex; it should be the state of your life. You ought to be able to be orgasmic and continue to be orgasmic all through your life.

11. Gratitude: The Foundation of Embodiment

Are you willing to have gratitude for your body?

Appreciation. Gratitude is the foundation of embodiment. It involves appreciating your body for all that it does and being grateful for its willingness to exist as the space between its molecules.

Shifting perspective. Instead of judging your body, express gratitude for it. This involves:

• Thanking it for its functions
• Acknowledging its resilience
• Being kind to yourself

Gratitude and receiving. Having gratitude allows you to receive, and the receiving allows you to have gratitude. It goes both ways.

Last updated: April 12, 2025