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How to Be a Better Person

How to Be a Better Person

400+ Simple Ways to Make a Difference in Yourself — And the World
by Kate Hanley 2018 224 pages
3.90
100+ ratings
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Key Takeaways

1. Embrace Positivity and Self-Improvement

"Being 'better' starts in your own mind, because you can't create what you can't imagine."

Retrain your brain. Overcome the natural negativity bias by actively acknowledging and appreciating positive experiences. This practice helps rewire your brain to focus on the good, leading to increased happiness and motivation.

Reframe your life story. View past challenges as valuable lessons that have shaped your unique strengths and perspectives. This shift in mindset allows you to see yourself as the hero of your own story, equipped with the tools to overcome future obstacles.

  • Practice gratitude daily
  • Look for the positive in challenging situations
  • Celebrate small wins and progress
  • Cultivate a growth mindset

2. Cultivate Emotional Intelligence

"To work with your feelings instead of simply being taken for a ride by them, aim to identify exactly what emotion you're experiencing."

Recognize and name emotions. Develop the ability to identify and label your feelings accurately. This awareness is the first step in managing emotions effectively and responding to situations more constructively.

Practice empathy. Strengthen your ability to understand and share the feelings of others. This skill enhances relationships, improves communication, and fosters a more compassionate approach to interactions.

  • Keep an emotion journal
  • Use mindfulness techniques to observe feelings without judgment
  • Practice active listening in conversations
  • Seek feedback on your emotional intelligence from trusted friends or colleagues

3. Prioritize Physical and Mental Health

"Taking better care of yourself helps you perform better."

Establish healthy habits. Create a routine that incorporates regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and adequate sleep. These foundational practices support both physical health and mental well-being.

Manage stress effectively. Develop a toolkit of stress-reduction techniques, such as meditation, deep breathing, or yoga. Regular use of these tools can help build resilience and prevent burnout.

  • Schedule regular health check-ups
  • Incorporate movement into your daily routine
  • Practice mindfulness or meditation
  • Prioritize sleep hygiene
  • Stay hydrated and eat nutrient-rich foods

4. Foster Loving Relationships

"Empathy is being able to imagine how another person feels, and it's the foundation of meaningful relationships."

Cultivate open communication. Practice active listening and express yourself honestly and kindly. This foundation of clear communication helps build trust and understanding in all relationships.

Show appreciation. Regularly express gratitude and acknowledge the positive actions of others. This practice strengthens bonds and creates a positive cycle of mutual appreciation.

  • Practice active listening without interrupting
  • Express gratitude daily to loved ones
  • Schedule quality time for important relationships
  • Learn and use your partner's love language
  • Offer support without trying to fix every problem

5. Give Back to Your Community

"You have more power than you can contemplate."

Identify your passions. Reflect on causes that resonate with you and align with your values. This connection will make your contributions more meaningful and sustainable.

Start small and local. Begin by making a difference in your immediate community. Small, consistent actions can create significant positive change over time.

  • Volunteer regularly for a local organization
  • Donate to causes you care about
  • Mentor someone in your field
  • Participate in community clean-up events
  • Offer your skills pro bono to non-profit organizations

6. Stay Committed to Personal Growth

"Getting back on track is one of the most important skills you can cultivate, so welcome any chance you get to hone it."

Set meaningful goals. Establish clear, achievable objectives that align with your values and long-term vision. This clarity provides motivation and direction for your personal growth journey.

Embrace failure as learning. Reframe setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning. This mindset shift helps maintain momentum and resilience in the face of challenges.

  • Create a personal mission statement
  • Break large goals into smaller, manageable steps
  • Celebrate progress, not just end results
  • Seek regular feedback from trusted mentors
  • Develop a growth mindset through reading and learning

7. Excel in Your Professional Life

"Mono-task one thing a day."

Focus on high-impact tasks. Identify and prioritize activities that contribute most significantly to your professional goals. This approach maximizes productivity and career advancement.

Cultivate a learning mindset. Stay curious and continuously seek opportunities to expand your skills and knowledge. This adaptability is crucial in today's rapidly changing work environment.

  • Use the Eisenhower Matrix to prioritize tasks
  • Schedule focused work blocks free from distractions
  • Seek regular feedback from supervisors and peers
  • Attend industry conferences or workshops
  • Build and maintain a professional network

8. Declutter and Simplify Your Life

"Acquiring and tending to possessions definitely eats up a lot of time, space, money, and energy."

Mindful consumption. Before making purchases, consider the long-term value and impact of items. This thoughtful approach reduces clutter and aligns your possessions with your values.

Regular decluttering. Establish a habit of periodically reviewing and removing unnecessary items from your living and working spaces. This practice creates a more organized, peaceful environment.

  • Implement a one-in, one-out rule for new purchases
  • Digitize documents and photos to reduce physical clutter
  • Use the KonMari method to declutter by category
  • Create designated spaces for essential items
  • Practice mindful consumption by waiting before making non-essential purchases

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Review Summary

3.90 out of 5
Average of 100+ ratings from Goodreads and Amazon.

How to Be a Better Person receives mixed reviews, with an average rating of 3.90/5. Many readers appreciate its simple, actionable advice and easy-to-read format. Some find it inspirational and a good starting point for self-improvement. Others critique it as superficial or containing cliché advice. Positive comments highlight its practicality and ability to provoke self-reflection. Criticisms include lack of depth and gender-neutral language. Overall, readers value its accessibility but suggest consuming it slowly and selectively for maximum benefit.

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About the Author

Kate Hanley is a writer and podcaster focused on self-improvement and personal growth. Her work aims to help people become better versions of themselves and positively impact the world. Hanley hosts a daily podcast called "How to Be a Better Person," which shares the title of her book. She enjoys reading historical fiction and memoirs, admiring authors like Mary Karr and Anne Lamott. Based in Providence, Rhode Island, Hanley lives with her family and a rescue dog. Her writing style emphasizes practical advice and actionable steps for personal development.

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