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Get Out of Your Head

Get Out of Your Head

Stopping the Spiral of Toxic Thoughts
by Jennie Allen 2020 223 pages
4.07
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Key Takeaways

1. Recognize the Power of Your Thoughts

How we think shapes how we live.

Thoughts shape reality. Our thoughts are not mere passive reflections of our circumstances, but active shapers of our experiences and actions. The average person has over 30,000 thoughts per day, and the majority of these can be negative. This constant stream of thoughts creates neural pathways in our brains, reinforcing patterns of thinking and behavior.

Awareness is key. To change our thought patterns, we must first become aware of them. This involves actively noticing what we're thinking about, especially recurring negative thoughts or beliefs. By recognizing these patterns, we can begin to interrupt them and replace them with more constructive thoughts.

Common negative thought patterns:

  • "I'm helpless"
  • "I'm worthless"
  • "I'm unlovable"

2. Interrupt Negative Thought Patterns

I have a choice.

The power of interruption. When we find ourselves spiraling into negative thought patterns, we have the power to interrupt them. This interruption is based on the simple yet profound realization: "I have a choice." This thought acts as a circuit breaker, allowing us to pause and reassess our thinking.

Reframing thoughts. Once we've interrupted a negative thought pattern, we can reframe it. Instead of thinking, "I'm stressed because I have too much to do," we can shift to, "I'm stressed, and I have too much to do, so I will choose to prioritize and take things one step at a time." This reframing acknowledges the reality of our situation while empowering us to take positive action.

Steps to interrupt negative thoughts:

  1. Recognize the negative thought
  2. Pause and remind yourself: "I have a choice"
  3. Reframe the thought in a more constructive way
  4. Choose a positive action or perspective

3. Choose Stillness and Seek God's Presence

We always have exactly what we need, when we need it.

The importance of stillness. In our busy, distraction-filled world, choosing stillness and seeking God's presence is crucial for mental and spiritual health. This practice allows us to connect with God, gain clarity, and realign our thoughts with truth.

Overcoming resistance. Many of us avoid stillness because we fear facing ourselves or God. We might worry about being found out, put to work, or asked to change. However, these fears are unfounded. When we draw near to God, He draws near to us, offering grace, peace, and guidance.

Benefits of stillness and seeking God:

  • Reduced anxiety and depression
  • Increased alpha brain waves (relaxation)
  • Improved perspective
  • Greater self-awareness
  • Deepened spiritual connection

4. Embrace Vulnerability in Community

We have stayed in the dark with the devil, and we have kept our secrets close.

The necessity of community. We were created for connection, not isolation. Embracing vulnerability in community allows us to be known, loved, and supported. It also provides a powerful antidote to the lies we believe about ourselves.

Overcoming fear of rejection. Many of us avoid vulnerability due to fear of rejection or past hurts. However, taking the risk to be known is essential for growth and healing. By sharing our struggles with trusted others, we break the power of shame and isolation.

Steps to build meaningful community:

  1. Seek out healthy people who are following Christ
  2. Take initiative to reach out and connect
  3. Be willing to say "yes" to invitations
  4. Show up authentically, sharing your true self
  5. Be willing to "bother" others and let them "bother" you

5. Surrender Your Fears to God

God is in control of every day of my life.

The trap of anxiety. Anxiety often stems from the lie that we cannot trust God with our future. We spiral into "what if" scenarios, trying to prepare for every possible outcome. This not only robs us of peace but also reveals our attempt to control what only God can control.

Choosing trust over fear. Surrendering our fears to God involves actively choosing to believe His promises over our anxious thoughts. This doesn't mean we won't face difficult circumstances, but it does mean we can face them with the confidence that God is with us and for us.

Practical ways to surrender fears:

  • Identify the specific fear or worry
  • Find a relevant truth or promise from Scripture
  • Choose to meditate on that truth instead of the fear
  • Take action based on trust rather than anxiety
  • Repeat this process as often as needed

6. Cultivate Gratitude and Delight in God

God is trustworthy and will, in the end, work all things together for good.

The power of gratitude. Cultivating gratitude shifts our focus from what's wrong to what's right, from what we lack to what we have. This practice not only improves our mental and emotional well-being but also opens our eyes to see God's goodness in our lives.

Delighting in God. Beyond mere thankfulness, we're called to delight in God Himself. This involves recognizing His beauty, goodness, and love in both the extraordinary and the ordinary aspects of life. As we do this, our cynicism gives way to wonder and joy.

Benefits of gratitude and delight:

  • Improved physical and mental health
  • Enhanced empathy and reduced aggression
  • Increased self-esteem and mental strength
  • Greater resilience in face of challenges
  • Deeper connection with God and others

7. Serve Others with Humility

The more I choose God and others over myself, the more joyful I will be.

The lie of self-importance. Our culture often promotes the idea that self-esteem and self-focus are the keys to happiness. However, this approach leads to discontentment and a constant striving for more. True joy comes from serving God and others.

The freedom of humility. Choosing to serve others with humility frees us from the exhausting pursuit of self-promotion. It aligns us with God's design for our lives and allows us to experience the joy of being part of something greater than ourselves.

Ways to cultivate humility and service:

  • Look for opportunities to meet others' needs
  • Practice active listening without trying to "fix" everything
  • Celebrate others' successes without comparison
  • Admit mistakes and ask for forgiveness quickly
  • Regularly express gratitude to God and others

8. Live as a New Creation in Christ

You are light.

Our new identity. When we trust in Christ, we become new creations. This isn't just a nice sentiment, but a profound spiritual reality that should shape how we think about ourselves and how we live. We are no longer defined by our past mistakes or current struggles, but by our identity in Christ.

Thinking with the mind of Christ. As new creations, we have been given the mind of Christ. This means we have the capacity to think as Jesus thinks. However, we must train our minds to do so consistently. This involves regularly renewing our minds through Scripture, prayer, and community.

Truths about our new identity in Christ:

  • We are forgiven and free from condemnation
  • We are loved unconditionally by God
  • We have the power of the Holy Spirit within us
  • We are part of God's family and mission
  • We have a secure future and eternal hope

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Review Summary

4.07 out of 5
Average of 40k+ ratings from Goodreads and Amazon.

Get Out of Your Head received mixed reviews. Many readers found it encouraging and life-changing, praising Allen's vulnerability and practical advice for combating negative thoughts through scripture and neuroscience. However, some critics felt it was repetitive, overly simplistic, and too focused on the author's personal experiences. The book's informal tone and Christian perspective resonated with some readers but alienated others. While some appreciated its message of empowerment through faith, others found it lacking in depth and substance for addressing serious mental health issues.

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About the Author

Jennie Allen is a Christian author, speaker, and founder of IF: Gathering. With a Master's in Biblical Studies from DTS, she has written several bestselling books and Bible studies, including "Stuck," "Chase," "Anything," and "Restless." Allen's work focuses on inspiring women to deepen their faith and encounter God. Her books often blend personal experiences with biblical teachings and practical advice. As a passionate leader and visionary, Allen aims to empower women in their spiritual journeys. She lives with her husband Zac and their four children, balancing her role as a mother with her career as an influential figure in contemporary Christian literature and ministry.

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