Created to be His Help Meet

1. A wife's primary role is to be a help meet to her husband

"I will make him an help meet for him."

God's design for marriage. From the beginning, God created woman to be a helper suitable for man. This is not a demeaning role, but a divine calling that brings fulfillment when embraced. A good help meet:

• Supports her husband's goals and vision
• Adapts to his personality type (Command, Visionary, or Steady)
• Looks for ways to assist and encourage him
• Respects his leadership and decisions

Being a help meet requires dying to self and putting your husband's needs before your own. However, it's in this selfless service that many women find their greatest joy and purpose.

2. Cultivate joy and gratitude in your marriage

"A merry heart doeth good like a medicine."

Choose thankfulness daily. Your attitude shapes your marriage more than your circumstances. Cultivate joy by:

• Focusing on your husband's positive qualities
• Expressing appreciation for what he provides
• Finding humor in daily challenges
• Avoiding criticism and complaints

A cheerful disposition attracts your husband and creates a positive atmosphere in your home. Even when facing difficulties, choose to respond with grace and optimism. Your joy can be a powerful force for good in your marriage.

3. Love your husband through physical intimacy

"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled."

Meet his sexual needs. Physical intimacy is a vital part of marriage. Embrace your role in meeting your husband's sexual needs by:

• Being available and enthusiastic
• Initiating intimacy at times
• Communicating openly about desires and preferences
• Addressing any physical or emotional barriers

Remember that sex is a gift from God to be enjoyed within marriage. By prioritizing physical intimacy, you strengthen your bond and protect your marriage from temptation.

4. Love your children by creating a peaceful home

"Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her."

Nurture through example. Your relationship with your husband greatly impacts your children. Love them by:

• Modeling respect and submission to your husband
• Creating a calm, organized home environment
• Spending quality time nurturing and training them
• Prioritizing their spiritual growth

Children thrive when they see their parents in a loving, God-honoring marriage. Your example as a devoted wife and mother lays a foundation for their future relationships and faith.

5. Practice discretion and chastity in all areas of life

"A gracious woman retaineth honour."

Guard your heart and reputation. Discretion involves wisdom in speech, behavior, and appearance. Practice chastity by:

• Dressing modestly
• Avoiding inappropriate conversations or situations
• Guarding your thoughts and emotions
• Being faithful in word and deed

A discreet and chaste woman brings honor to her husband and family. She is trustworthy and respected by others, reflecting the beauty of a godly character.

6. Be a keeper of the home and manage it wisely

"She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness."

Create a haven. As a keeper of the home, you have the opportunity to create a peaceful and welcoming environment. This involves:

• Maintaining cleanliness and order
• Managing finances wisely
• Preparing nourishing meals
• Creating systems for smooth household operation

A well-managed home provides stability for your family and allows your husband to focus on his responsibilities. Take pride in your role as the heart of the home.

7. Obey your husband as unto the Lord

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord."

Trust God's design. Submission is often misunderstood, but it's a biblical principle that brings harmony to marriage. Obedience involves:

• Respecting your husband's decisions
• Supporting his leadership
• Offering input respectfully when needed
• Trusting God even when you disagree

Remember that you're ultimately submitting to God's authority by obeying your husband. This attitude of humble obedience can powerfully influence your husband and strengthen your marriage.

8. Navigate exceptions to obedience with wisdom

"We ought to obey God rather than men."

Discern true exceptions. While wives are generally called to obey their husbands, there are rare situations where disobedience may be necessary. These include:

• Requests to engage in illegal activities
• Commands that violate clear biblical principles
• Situations involving abuse or danger

In these cases, seek godly counsel and respond with wisdom and grace. The goal is always to honor God and, if possible, preserve the marriage relationship.

Last updated: November 20, 2024