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Double Your Dating

Double Your Dating

by David DeAngelo
3.95
500+ ratings
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Key Takeaways

1. Develop an attractive personality, not just pickup lines

Humor is just plain powerful with women. If you can keep her laughing, you will go far.

Personality trumps appearance. While looks, wealth, and status can be attractive, your personality is the most powerful asset in attracting women. Focus on developing traits like humor, intelligence, creativity, and confidence. These qualities are more enduring and versatile than physical attributes or material possessions.

Cultivate a compelling character. Instead of memorizing pickup lines, work on becoming a more interesting person overall. Develop your sense of humor, learn to tell engaging stories, and cultivate interests and expertise in various areas. This creates a more authentic and attractive presence that women will naturally gravitate towards.

Key personality traits to develop:

  • Humor and wit
  • Confidence (bordering on cockiness)
  • Intelligence and creativity
  • Adventurousness
  • Charm and social skills

2. Understand and leverage female psychology

Women are attracted to men for certain reasons. When these reasons are met, they trigger a specific sequence internally. There is a system, a sequence, or a code, if you will.

Recognize female motivations. Women often seek men who demonstrate strength, confidence, and the ability to provide emotional and physical security. They are attracted to men who present a challenge and aren't easily manipulated or controlled.

Leverage psychological principles. Use techniques like creating scarcity, demonstrating high value, and maintaining an air of mystery to increase your attractiveness. Understand that women often communicate indirectly and respond well to men who can pick up on subtle cues.

Key psychological principles:

  • Women test men to gauge their strength and confidence
  • They're often more attracted to men who seem unattainable
  • Emotional connection is crucial for most women
  • They respond positively to men who demonstrate social intelligence

3. Master the art of cocky and funny communication

I specialize in saying things that women have never heard. I also like to say things that she's never heard that MAKE ME DIFFERENT IN A DESIRABLE WAY.

Balance cockiness with humor. The "cocky and funny" approach involves making confident, slightly arrogant statements, but delivering them with a humorous twist. This creates intrigue and attraction by demonstrating high value while keeping the interaction light and enjoyable.

Use teasing and playful banter. Engage in playful teasing to create emotional spikes and keep women guessing. Avoid giving direct compliments or showing too much interest too soon. Instead, use humor to challenge her and maintain an air of mystery.

Cocky and funny techniques:

  • Playful accusations (e.g., "You're totally trying to seduce me, aren't you?")
  • Exaggerated self-praise followed by a joke
  • Misinterpreting her words for humorous effect
  • Using agree and amplify to handle tests

4. Cultivate confidence through body language and voice

I've done a lot of work in this area, and I've found that by SLOWING DOWN, I create mystery and intrigue. I literally practice slowing down my walk, my gestures, how fast I turn my head, how fast I talk, and even how fast I blink.

Project confidence physically. Your body language communicates more than your words. Stand tall, maintain eye contact, and move with purpose. Practice slowing down your movements and speech to convey a sense of calm confidence.

Develop a powerful voice. Work on developing a deep, resonant voice. Speak slowly and clearly, using pauses for emphasis. A strong, controlled voice is incredibly attractive to women and conveys authority and confidence.

Confidence-building techniques:

  • Practice power poses daily
  • Maintain open body language (uncrossed arms, legs apart)
  • Use slow, deliberate movements
  • Make strong eye contact
  • Develop a lower, more resonant speaking voice

5. Create opportunities to meet women naturally

If you want to meet more women, you have to go to the places where they go.

Frequent female-rich environments. Identify places where the type of women you're interested in spend time. This might include yoga classes, dance lessons, art galleries, or specific types of bars and restaurants.

Cultivate a lifestyle that attracts women. Develop interests and hobbies that naturally put you in contact with women. This not only increases your opportunities to meet women but also makes you a more interesting and well-rounded person.

Places to meet women:

  • Yoga or fitness classes
  • Art galleries and museums
  • Coffee shops and bookstores
  • Dance lessons
  • Volunteer organizations
  • Professional networking events

6. Perfect the initial approach and conversation

I've tried probably 50 different types of 'lines' and techniques for meeting women, and I've found that the simple ones work the best.

Keep it simple and genuine. When approaching a woman, avoid using cheesy pickup lines. Instead, start with a simple, honest opener like asking for her opinion on something or making an observation about the environment.

Focus on creating intrigue. Your goal in the initial interaction should be to pique her interest and stand out from other men. Use the cocky and funny technique, ask thought-provoking questions, and maintain an air of mystery.

Effective conversation starters:

  • Ask for her opinion on a current event or debate
  • Make a playful observation about the environment
  • Use the "elderly opener" (e.g., "My grandmother thinks I need help meeting women. What do you think?")
  • Start with a genuine compliment followed by a playful tease

7. Turn phone numbers into successful dates

I've found that getting an e-mail address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on.

Prioritize email over phone numbers. Email communication allows for more thoughtful responses and is less intrusive than phone calls. It also gives you the opportunity to showcase your personality and humor in writing.

Create low-pressure first meetings. Suggest a short, casual meetup like coffee or a quick drink rather than a formal dinner date. This takes the pressure off both parties and allows you to assess compatibility before investing too much time or energy.

Tips for securing and following up on contact information:

  • Ask for email first, then phone number as an afterthought
  • Follow up within 24-48 hours with a brief, playful message
  • Suggest a specific time and place for a casual meetup
  • Use humor and light teasing in your messages to maintain interest

8. Maintain control and intrigue throughout dating

Never give a woman exactly what she asks for… EVER! Always send mixed signals.

Keep her guessing. Maintain an element of unpredictability in your interactions. Don't always be available, and don't always give her exactly what she wants. This creates intrigue and keeps her invested in pursuing you.

Lead the interaction. Take charge of planning dates and making decisions. Women are often attracted to men who can confidently lead and make choices. However, be sure to consider her preferences and comfort level.

Techniques for maintaining intrigue:

  • End conversations and dates first
  • Use push-pull techniques (e.g., compliment followed by a tease)
  • Create sexual tension through innuendo and playful touch
  • Maintain your own interests and social life outside of dating

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Review Summary

3.95 out of 5
Average of 500+ ratings from Goodreads and Amazon.

Double Your Dating receives mixed reviews, with some praising its insights into female psychology and confidence-building techniques. Critics argue it's outdated, simplistic, and promotes manipulative behavior. Positive reviews highlight its effectiveness in understanding women and improving dating skills. Negative reviews claim it's basic, lacks substance, and objectifies women. Some readers found it life-changing, while others suggest alternative dating books. Overall, opinions are divided on its usefulness and ethical approach to dating.

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About the Author

David DeAngelo, whose real name is Eben W. Pagan, is an American author and dating coach. He gained popularity in the early 2000s with his "Double Your Dating" brand, which includes books, seminars, and online courses. David DeAngelo developed the concept of "cocky and funny" as a dating strategy, though he later admitted to creating it without field testing. Despite controversy surrounding his methods, DeAngelo has maintained a significant presence in the dating advice industry. He has since expanded his business into other self-help areas and entrepreneurship coaching. DeAngelo is now married, which some critics use to question his ongoing relevance in the dating advice field.

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