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What Women Want In A Man

What Women Want In A Man

How To Become The Alpha Male Women Respect, Desire, And Want To Submit To
by Bruce Bryans 2013 113 pages
Relationships
Womens
Self Help
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Key Takeaways

1. Embrace Masculine Chivalry to Attract High-Quality Women

"The confident guy gets the girl because she needs security."

Masculine chivalry defined. Masculine chivalry is the perfect blend of mature masculinity and romantic allure. It combines confidence, productivity, and assertiveness with empathy and a sense of duty. This combination is highly attractive to high-quality women who seek security and leadership in a partner.

Traits of masculine chivalry:

  • Self-directed and poised
  • Productive and assertive
  • Empathetic and courageous
  • Committed to personal principles
  • Devoted to a life purpose
  • Dedicated to fulfilling a woman's deepest desires

By embodying these traits, a man naturally becomes more attractive to women who are seeking a strong, reliable partner. This approach allows for a deeper connection based on mutual respect and admiration, rather than superficial qualities or manipulative techniques.

2. Develop a Strong Character and Overcome Insecurities

"If you don't feel secure within yourself, no woman will feel secure with you."

Build inner strength. Developing a strong character is crucial for attracting and maintaining a relationship with a high-quality woman. This involves overcoming personal insecurities and establishing a solid sense of self-worth.

Key strategies for character development:

  • Create and follow a personal code of conduct
  • Study the lives of admirable men for inspiration
  • Eliminate negative influences and fine-tune your information diet
  • Practice positive self-talk and affirmations
  • Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth

By focusing on personal growth and self-improvement, you not only become more attractive to potential partners but also create a stable foundation for a lasting relationship. A woman is more likely to respect and admire a man who is constantly working on bettering himself.

3. Abandon the 'Nice Guy' Persona and Establish Boundaries

"No good woman in her RIGHT mind wants to be with a Mr. Nice-Guy."

Assert yourself. The 'nice guy' persona often stems from a desire to please others at the expense of one's own needs and boundaries. This behavior can lead to a lack of respect from women and unfulfilling relationships.

Steps to overcome the 'nice guy' syndrome:

  • Learn to say 'no' and establish clear personal boundaries
  • Make decisions based on your values, not others' approval
  • Take initiative and offer solutions instead of waiting for others
  • Express your opinions honestly, even if they differ from others
  • Prioritize your own needs and goals alongside those of others

By abandoning the 'nice guy' act and embracing authenticity, you become more attractive to high-quality women who value strength and integrity in a partner. This shift allows for more balanced and fulfilling relationships based on mutual respect.

4. Master Emotional Control and Decision-Making

"The better you become at creating win-win solutions when dealing with others and exercising emotional control, the more effective your decision making will be."

Cultivate leadership qualities. Mastering emotional control and decision-making skills is essential for becoming an effective leader in both personal and professional spheres. These qualities are particularly attractive to women seeking a stable and confident partner.

Techniques for improving emotional control and decision-making:

  • Practice mindfulness and self-awareness
  • Develop a problem-solving mindset
  • Learn to pause and choose responses rather than reacting impulsively
  • Seek out challenging situations to build resilience
  • Make more decisions daily, gradually increasing their difficulty
  • Study successful leaders and their decision-making processes

By honing these skills, you become a more capable and attractive partner. Women are naturally drawn to men who can remain calm under pressure and make sound decisions, as these traits indicate stability and reliability.

5. Discover Your Life's Purpose and Pursue It Passionately

"Find your path in life and be determined to stay on that path no matter what."

Find your calling. Discovering and pursuing your life's purpose is crucial for personal fulfillment and attracting a compatible partner. A man with a clear direction in life is inherently more attractive to high-quality women.

Steps to uncover and pursue your life's purpose:

  • Identify your natural talents and interests
  • Explore various fields and activities that align with your strengths
  • Set clear, long-term goals and create actionable plans
  • Seek out mentors and role models in your chosen field
  • Continuously educate yourself and develop relevant skills
  • Embrace challenges and setbacks as learning opportunities

By dedicating yourself to a meaningful purpose, you not only become more fulfilled but also more attractive to potential partners. A woman is more likely to be drawn to a man who is passionate about his life's work and has a clear vision for his future.

6. Cultivate Sexual Confidence and Authentic Communication

"Sexual confidence as a man is an important aspect of being a naturally attractive man simply because in order to create desire within a woman you are going to have to be comfortable with the idea of being able to fulfill her physical and emotional needs."

Embrace your sexuality. Developing sexual confidence is crucial for creating and maintaining attraction in a relationship. This involves being comfortable with your own desires and learning to communicate them effectively.

Key aspects of sexual confidence:

  • Accept and embrace your natural desires
  • Understand and respect your partner's needs
  • Communicate openly and honestly about intimacy
  • Develop self-assurance in your ability to please your partner
  • Balance control and spontaneity in intimate situations
  • Continuously educate yourself on relationships and sexuality

By cultivating sexual confidence, you create a stronger connection with your partner and foster a more satisfying relationship. This confidence extends beyond the bedroom, positively impacting all aspects of your interactions with women.

7. Take Full Responsibility for Your Life and Actions

"Always take ownership of the truth that your life is whatever YOU make of it, past present, and future."

Own your life. Taking full responsibility for your life and actions is a fundamental aspect of mature masculinity. This mindset is highly attractive to high-quality women who seek partners capable of handling life's challenges.

Ways to demonstrate responsibility:

  • Avoid complaining and blaming others for your circumstances
  • Accept the consequences of your decisions, both good and bad
  • Proactively seek solutions to problems instead of dwelling on them
  • Set and pursue personal goals without relying on others for motivation
  • Admit mistakes and learn from them
  • Cultivate a grateful attitude towards life's experiences

By adopting this responsible mindset, you become more attractive to potential partners and more capable of maintaining a healthy, balanced relationship. Women are drawn to men who can handle life's ups and downs with grace and determination.

8. Continuously Evolve and Commit to Personal Growth

"The secret to gaining and maintaining the love, admiration, respect, and desire of a quality woman is to continuously evolve into a better man."

Never stop improving. Committing to continuous personal growth is essential for maintaining attraction and building a lasting relationship with a high-quality woman. This dedication to self-improvement demonstrates ambition, self-awareness, and a desire for excellence.

Strategies for ongoing personal development:

  • Set regular personal and professional goals
  • Seek out new experiences and challenges
  • Read widely and stay informed about various topics
  • Develop new skills and hobbies
  • Reflect on your experiences and learn from them
  • Seek feedback from trusted friends, mentors, or partners
  • Embrace change and adapt to new circumstances

By consistently working on yourself, you not only become a better partner but also inspire your significant other to grow alongside you. This mutual commitment to personal growth can strengthen your relationship and keep the spark of attraction alive over time.

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Review Summary

4.05 out of 5
Average of 500+ ratings from Goodreads and Amazon.

What Women Want In A Man receives mostly positive reviews. Readers praise it for providing valuable insights on becoming a better man, improving relationships, and developing confidence and leadership qualities. Many find it unexpectedly insightful despite the title. Critics argue it promotes outdated gender roles. The book emphasizes developing strong character, principles, and purpose. Some readers note it's more about self-improvement than seduction techniques. Overall, it's seen as a concise, thought-provoking read that challenges men to become their best selves.

About the Author

Bruce Bryans is an author who specializes in writing relationship advice books for both men and women. His focus is on helping readers become "irresistible and irreplaceable romantic partners" to the opposite sex. Bryans' work aims to provide practical guidance on improving one's attractiveness and relationship skills. His books often delve into topics such as understanding gender dynamics, developing personal character, and mastering communication in romantic relationships. While some critics argue his advice reinforces traditional gender roles, many readers find his insights valuable for personal growth and relationship success. Bryans' writing style is generally described as straightforward and accessible.

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